I'm a simple guy who goes to job& earns a decent amount.i believe in saving,but my wife believes in spending,
my marriage has completed 8 months & in these 8mths this girl has packed her bags thrice {of course with gold} & went to her house for a duration of 15days to 1 month each time.
& with me she just wants to socialise{go to malls,party,long drives,hotels,hillstations, movies,etc}thats ok for me but when it comes to bear my child, answer is simple NO.
and apart from that she wants to handle her parents{my in laws}ready made garments' business.may be coz of that she dosent want to concieve. please give me some legal help?
i have heard sum where that if wife doesnt live with her hubby for six months at a time, divorce can happen easily. is it true? plz help?
2007-12-10 08:18:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
No my dear friend divorce cases are not so simple in India as been told to you by some one who doesn't understand the law relating to matrimonial & divorce in India. Firstly let me tell you the very fact filling petition for divorce within one year of such marriage is not allowed unless a prior permission is taken from the High Court by filling an application & satisfying ground that the case is one of exceptional hardship to the petitioner or of exceptional depravity on the part of the respondent, secondly if the divorce by mutual consent is sort the issue to be settled even for such cases can take any time from six months to eighteen months. Now coming to divorce petition filled unilaterally by any one party to such marriage requires certain grounds for doing so, in your case the only ground I can make out is cruelty, but this ground has to be proved by you in the family court & show that such cruelty on part of you wife made it impossible for you to continue such marital relationship as this has broken your matrimonial home irretrievably. How much all this case will take can be two years or even ten years, there is no time limit for such issues to be resolved in any specific time period so don't get carried by what you hear from novice who have no knowledge regarding matrimonial disputes. It’s not only a simple issue of dissolution of marriage it is some thing more then that, which you read & see every day happening in India society such as domestic violence & dowry issues etc. So first sit with a sensible lawyer, pay him his consultancy fee & discuss this issue in details & find out avenues to solve it rather searching reply here or any other forum.
2007-12-10 12:53:33 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
... Women are more than just a swollen belly and incubator for your children... I guess you didn’t know her very well before marriage, right? In other societies, where young people can date freely, get to know each other well, go out and have fun together BEFORE marriage these surprises do not happen... You are married 8 months and she wants to live some kind of romance before getting pregnant. That’s natural, normally all these things you are doing together shall be done before you get married to somebody. Honestly, I wouldn’t like to have a life like this: Getting married and 2 month afterwards I have a swollen belly... bye, bye freedom and enjoyment... Give her time, dude! What a mentally exhausting situation, it seems that all you are interested in is getting her pregnant as soon as possible. What about time together, fun together and having a good time together first? This is the reason why she goes away, I wouldn’t stand this either is somebody would be nagging on me all days. She doesn’t want to live with you, because she was not ready to get married that soon. So you have 2 possibilities, the easiest is heading for a divorce and look for a submissive nice girl to fulfil your ideas of a perfect life. The other possibility is growing up and accept your wife as a human being and listen to her wishes and needs and try to find a compromise. I mean, she surely wants to have a family, too. BUT not now. But it seems, that you see everything just from your perspective and do not waste a thought about her point of view. Maybe you shall start to demand less and listen more... would be a first step to save your relationship, don’t you think so? Good luck!
2016-05-22 21:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are indian - surely you should have more idea than the rest of us? youve probably got a big family, is there noone you can ask?
2007-12-10 08:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite a predicament your in, let's see ask Dr. Phil =).
2007-12-10 08:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by BrigadierBacon 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋