Last year we were asked to go to a relative's home for Christmas eve dinner.. she wanted to host it, but she asked everyone to pay $20 each. Was this rude and tacky or what? What would you do if you were hosting Christmas eve?
2007-12-10 08:00:31 · 23 answers · asked by Cupid 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I don't really agree with sglmom's answer about the family not being able to afford it. To me, if you can't afford to host a dinner, then you shouldn't host. Simple as that. I could see asking people to donate money to a cause that helped needy families, but even that is an optional thing because people contribute to different charities and it might not be one you contribute to. Why don't you just ask the relative why she's charging to host a dinner? Maybe she'll realize what she's doing is wrong and stop asking. This is the second year in a row that I'm hosting and I would never ask anyone to bring me money. If they offer to bring a dish, I'll gladly accept. I'm curious to know how this turns out. Post another question to let us know! Merry Christmas!
2007-12-10 08:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not go. I agree that a potluck would have been better.
VERY TACKY & GHETTO/
For all we know it was just to make profit! lol
I wouldn't have gone. If I was hosting chritmas eve then I would ask everyone to bring either a appetizer or dessert. I would take care of dinner. The reason to have other bring stuff would be to mix it up a little and have a good variety of different things. The only thing that I would ask is that they let me know if they are bringing a dessert or an appetizer so that I know if there is enough to go around. If not then it is my job to prepare more appetizers.
2007-12-10 08:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by MS.veronica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, you need to think of it this way ...
IF somehow they were having financial difficulties -- then asking each person to chip in for the cost of the food/whatever (or ... better yet -- to bring a specific pot luck dish) would have been more preferable to the outright asking for money ...
So ... although somewhat on the rude side, I can sympathize IF they were having financial difficulty.
IF the situation was that they were just plain greedy (and wanted to line their pockets some more) ... then yes, that is RUDE and Tacky.
Now ... if I were hosting the Christmas Eve Party -- I wouldn't be offended if some of my guests ASKED what they could bring -- and then if they wanted to bring an item ... it is fine by me! Otherwise ... if you can afford it ... don't charge!
2007-12-10 08:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the cost was stated when you were invited then I think its OK. Maybe she wanted people there but simply could not afford all the food required . You could decline the invitation and go somewhere else.
I have been to family gatherings where each family attending brought one of the dishes for the meal. So one person brings turkey or ham , one mash potatoes, one brings dresisng , and another the pie . That way noone has large expenses .
2007-12-10 08:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by mark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how close a relative it was. if my brother and his wife were hosting christmas eve and they cooked something really awesome like prime rib, i would offer a few dollars, or if they asked i would not be insulted. but that's if it was my brother. generally speaking, it is rude to invite guests to your home and then ask them to pay. that's why it's more common to ask people to bring a dish to pass. recently i went to an engagement party where they asked everyone to bring a dish and that was fine. they also asked us to let them know what the dish was when we rsvp'd so they didn't have 4 green bean casseroles or whatever. if i didn't know them so well it might have been a little weird to rsvp and hear, "what will you be bringing?" but oh well. at least they didn't ask for cash haha.
2007-12-10 08:13:43 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.
In my family, we take turns hosting Christmas, but we all cooperate: either we bring something or we split the expenses, because we are too many, and we consider its a lot to ask of one family to have food for all of us.
So the hosting family do the cooking and preparations for dinner, and we all just arrive.
In this case I don't mind at all, because we all agree.
But if you are not used to doing this, maybe it was rude.
2007-12-10 08:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by Patito 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's really tacky. You don't invite people over on the holidays and expect them to pay. Especially family that you volunteered to make dinner for.
2007-12-10 08:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by bgmcfn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she has more than two people show up, it sounds like she's even making a profit off of this dinner, not just covering the cost (which is tacky in and of itself).
2007-12-10 08:08:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was extremely tacky and just ridiculous. She should never be charging people to come to her home for a dinner that she invited you too.
2007-12-10 08:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by honeyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would foot the bill and if I couldn't afford it I wouldn't host. I think it is tacky to invite people to your home and then charge them.
2007-12-10 08:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by STLgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋