This has bothered me for quite some time. When I ask him if it's because he just doesn't like to do it, he said "pretty much." But he has also told me that in the past he has done "everything" with a girl he dated. How can he not do "everything" with his own wife? This gets to me. We do everything else but this. I make sure I am fresh & clean : ) so I'm sure that isn't why. I go down on him very often. Sometimes I think I should stop going down on him, until he will go down on me. Do you agree with this? Please answer me this:
Why would a man not want to please his wife (or at least try it once because she wants it)?
Have you ever known a man to not like going down on a girl?
What should I do to fix this problem?
Thanks for your help, this is a sensitive issue for me and I don't know who else to ask! I am too embarrassed to tell my friends he doesn't ever do this for me. : (
2007-12-10 07:56:51 · 36 answers · asked by jval 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, if it smells like a River or sewage, it kinds of make it hard to lick.
2007-12-10 08:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You say you're sure you're clean down there, but are you clean in his eyes? Does he maybe prefer hairless and you don't keep things neat downstairs? There could be some simple little explanation that you're just not getting out of him.
Also, there is a chance that he has the whole Madonna/Whore thing going on. He might have thought that was appropriate behavior for a girlfriend, but not for a wife, you know? Like his wife is too good to enjoy that sort of stuff.
2007-12-10 08:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Why would a man not want to please his wife (or at least try it once because she wants it)?
Because he's a selfish a**hole... and he wants everything for nothing in return
Have you ever known a man to not like going down on a girl?
Yes, my fiance didn't like doing that to his ex but he does to me... i guess she wasnt very clean, but no surprise there, she's a skank!
What should I do to fix this problem?
talk to him about how you feel... if all else fails, go on strike!
I think he should do other stuff for you... as if i do everything for my guy bc i like it, i do it to please him too... and he should do the same for u too
2007-12-10 08:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you want to know why he did it with an ex girlfriend and not you, you'll need to ask him. We can't read his mind but I will say that it's okay if he doesn't like doing it (just as there may be some sexual things you don't like).
Oral isn't an obligation and if you choose to withhold oral from him, that's your right, but it's rather childish. Sex should be enjoyable for both people...if you like giving him oral then why not do it? If he doesn't like giving you oral why make him feel obligated? Would you really get any pleasure out of it if you knew he was only doing it because you pushed the issue or threatened not to go down on him? I'd find it hard to climax if I knew my guy was thinking "this is gross" the whole time he was going down on me.
Find things you BOTH enjoy doing. If oral is a deal breaker for you then it should've broken the deal before you said "I do". Although I understand some guys don't enjoy giving oral, I wouldn't date a guy who didn't enjoy it (much less marry him).
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2007-12-10 08:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am very sorry to hear that, wow if I did not get the oral attention I needed from my husband I am not sure what I would do. If I were you girl I would stop doing him the favor until he returned it. It is very possible that no matter how clean you are it may gross him out a little try and warm him up to it and once he realizes it is not so bad maybe he will change his tune. Also, he may have had a bad experience with his previous girl and that may be scaring him off. Anothe outside chance is that he may be afraid that if you get off orally then you may not need actual intercourse from him. Best of luck!
2007-12-10 08:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Diane K 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, well........ Its not uncommon, I myself was like that. I never went down on my wife because I felt it was dirty.... she on the other hand use to do it to me often. It wasn't until after my divorce that I tried it for the first time. Alot of guys, myself included use to think that it wasn't macho to go down on a woman..... how wrong I was. A lot of it had to do with not knowing or understanding and being selfish......... today my mate and I enjoy going down on each other and for-filling each others needs. I don't know if u should stop doing him, maybe u should tell him that its something u would like to happen the next time u guys r intimate..... work out some sort of deal. If all else fails, get him stupid drunk and lay it on him.... good luck,
make it happen captin!!!!!
2007-12-10 08:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by pokvet 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Look sweetie I had the same problem with my wife and here is what I did and you mention that you get all fresh and clean before, well maybe your washing all the taste away and it taste like medicine, or cream but it is a nasty taste and lingers in your mouth so I got her some oils with flavor and it work like a charm......
2007-12-10 08:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by beecharmed_2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
JMO and only JMO but some people do not prefer to do that, just like women do not prefer to give their husbands BJ's.
It is a matter of preference, if it bothers you, then talk to your husband and find other ways of him pleasing you!!!!!
I am being serious here, reallly, go to Spencers Gifts in the mall, and they have lots of exciting, new fun "toys" and gels, and creams, and lubrications to make your life with your husband exciting!
2007-12-10 08:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should rent the movie, "BROTHERS." I am wondering if you tested the waters before you jumped in. If he was not going down before the marriage, you had to have known that he was not going down during the marriage. These kinds of things should not be assumed. I would definitely stop going down on him until he starts returning the favor.
2007-12-10 08:07:25 · answer #9 · answered by Cherri 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why would a man not want to please his wife (or at least try it once because she wants it)?
- This is a complicated question. Some guys are so stubborn that they just won't do certain things. Talk to him about it. Communication is key!
Have you ever known a man to not like going down on a girl?
- Yes.
What should I do to fix this problem?
- Ask him what he likes you to do for his pleasure, and offer to trade. It seems a bit simple, but that's what I did with my husband. "If you want me to give you a *******, you're going to have to eat me out." And stick to your guns! Try different ways of going about it. If he doesn't like the taste, try edible lube or chocolate sauce. THAT'S fun! ;)
Don't be embarrassed, there are plenty of women out there who experience issues with their sex lives! No one is perfect. :)
2007-12-10 08:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by vt_maplesugar 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't know why but some guys are like that. I absolutely LOVE to do that. He may feel inadequate at it or something though, and therefore not want to do it because he is afraid of disappointing you. If I were you though I would definitely let him know that he is going to start going down on you or you are going to quit going down on him. I mean it is only fair, and I can't stand a hypocrite.
One thing you may want to try is get some strawberry favored lotion or something like that to help him along. Who knows? Personally I don't like it but to each his own.
2007-12-10 08:04:15 · answer #11 · answered by No one 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋