family vs. relationship?

Question

my family has been forever supportive to me and as much as possible i don't want to fail them.. just that i know they couldn't and wouldn't accept my current relationship. so you see, i'm with a "butch" (another girl) who i love so much and that i'll do what i can to save the relationship.. i don't want to lose either of them.... whew!

Answer 1

you need to sit your family down and talk to them and see what they have against this girl.. if they have a valid point then maybe you need to step back and see if she is the one you should be with...if they have no valid reason then you need to step in and tell them that they are way out of line... this will make your family see that you are serious about her..maybe help both relationships

Answer 2

As you may have heard before, ' friends will come and go in your lifetime, but family is forever.' Well you will expierience many different relationships in your lifetime. However, you have already expeireinced what its like to have a supportive family. Not many children have supportive family's. Anyways, back to the situation. If your family has supported you through everything, they should support you through this. They have no reason to be against your relationship. In my eyes, if my parents were against my relationship, I would see it as being against me. But thats in my eyes. I think you should tell your family about your relationship but remember to tell them that this is who you are. Nothing is gonna change who you are! Nothing!

Answer 3

Since you didn't give your age, I'm assuming you are a teenager. Friends and relationships will come and go but family is forever. If you are sure they will be unaccepting of this relationship, you may want to consider not saying anything about it right now. If you decide that you truly want to be with her, several months from now, try talking to one of your parents ( which ever one is the most open minded) about your feelings for her.

Remember, your family will always there for you but friends will change throughout your life.
If you need to talk with someone further about this concern, you may want to call a hotline and speak with a counselor. We are here 24/7 to help with any kind of problems you are experiencing.

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Answer 4

Relationships, including those between siblings, coworkers, intimate partners, parents and children, are subject to different characteristics, dynamics and boundaries. Moreover, the concept of love has been historically difficult to define, making the navigation of loving relationships particularly complex. Comparing the presentation of love in romantic relationships to that in relationships involving family and friends can help illustrate love's depth.

Intimacy

Levels of intimacy vary based on relationship type. Intimacy itself may be sexual or affectionate or could even just mean having the ability to confide in another. Romantic relationships can encompass all of these aspects. Relationships with friends and family members aren't sexual but might embrace a great deal of affection and trust. Despite the type of relationship, intimacy thrives when participants treat one another as equals and communicate respectfully, according to Debra Langan and Deborah Davidson in their work titled "Rethinking Intimate Questions: Intimacy as Discourse."
Commitment

Degrees of commitment also vary depending on the nature of given relationships. A married couple may vow to remain faithful to one another sexually. Someone involved in a dating relationship may value loyalty to family and longtime friends above any romantic relationship. Others may prioritize commitment to family and long-term partners over commitment to friends. Familial and romantic relationships tend to generate the highest levels of commitment, states Lisa J. Cohen, Ph.D., in her "Psychology Today" article on the psychology of love.
Commonalities and Overlap

Relationship love shares some attributes with the love for friends and family. In all cases, there can be found some amount of caring and devotion. There is also always the risk of rejection, betrayal and mistreatment, regardless of relationship type. There is another type of overlap common to these relationships -- friends can become lovers and lovers can revert to being friends. Friendship is a part of romance, and romantic relationships can become familial via marriage.
Cultural Variation

The concept of love can be perceived differently based on culture. In some Eastern cultures, for instance, marriage is a partnership based on economics as much as on love. Some researchers believe gender plays a role in intimacy, with women more likely to crave intimacy beyond that which is purely sexual in nature. Same-sex relationships involving women are reported to have intensely intimate connections, while those involving men sometimes lack any intimacy beyond that of sex.....Bendigo rental manager

Answer 5

You can't fail the relationship but you can handle how you react to it.