Who should get to pick the first name?

Question

Okay. My husband is dead set on Clyde being in the name, I hate the name, but I've consceded, cause after all it is his son also. But I don't want Clyde to be the first name. I want to name my baby Aiden Clyde Kelly. And he is insisting that his name be Clyde Aiden Kelly or even Clyde Michael Kelly. Who should get to pick the first name? I mean... after all what did he do for this baby? I've carried the baby, I will give birth to the baby... breast feed... etc. HELP!!! I'm gonna kill him (my husband...)

Answer 1

LOL.... the never ending battle. My DH and I fought w/ both kids about it. It needs to be a mutual decision and if you both don't like a name then I think it should not be reserved for 1st name status. I think you should get a list of names you like and see if you can find common ground!

Answer 2

The not-so-simple answers is neither (or rather, both). ;) Ideally, mom and dad need to be equally comfortable with the child's name. Now my husband is nice enough to give me final say -- for all the reasons you mentioned ;) -- but that's only after we've narrowed down the list to only two or three choices we BOTH love. We don't go in saying "I want this" or "I'M naming the baby this," because all that serves to do is create the exact sort of tug-of-war you're unfortunately experiencing now.

In a perfect world, your husband would have been nice enough to actually ask you how you felt about Clyde (I know, men ... the cads! LOL) and you would have had the opportunity to politely concede to it as a middle name only, given the feelings you've already expressed. Instead, it seems he's trying to force the issue, thereby making your very-nice concession seem a stubborn withholding, instead. In other words, trying to turn it around on you ... the big meany! ;)

Along those same lines, however, you clearly stated, "I want to name MY baby Aiden Clyde Kelly." Apparently indicating that your own preconceived notions about naming the child you technically share are equally strong. ;)

In other words, perhaps a bit more discussion is in order. Maybe there's some other name out there that would offer a similar sound or feel and manage to please you both! ;) So you might actually try placing those names on the back burner for a bit and seeing what else you can come up with through JOINT research and discussion.

For example, while you obviously aren't in love with Clyde, perhaps something similar like Clive, Clint, Carlin, Cian (KEE-an), Cillian, Cyrus, Silas, Simon, Lyle or Boyd would be more your style. Along those same lines, Aidan (and all its variant spellings) is such a huge trend at the moment, it's likely that equally-common Caden -- which happens to combine the beginning sound of Clyde with the obvious rhyming -aden/Aidan -- would be a possible compromise of both favorites. And if not, there's always Braden, Hayden, Jadon, Raiden, etc. (and those are just the actual, not-recently-created forms LOL). Quite likely you could have the sound you like and still find a popular rhyming -aden more palatable to your husband, if you follow. Plenty of options in that vein, after all. ;)

Good luck!

Answer 3

He has to compromise and take your opinion into account. If you really HATE the name then use it as a middle name... that way Clyde is still part of the name...
I think you both should come up with a new name, not Clyde or Aiden, but a fresh, new name that you both agree on. Good luck!

Answer 4

You really both need to compromise. You should pick out a name you both agree on. If Clyde is his first name does he have to be called that? Can you name him Clyde Aiden but call him Aiden???
The baby is 50/50 yours and his... you need to decide together

Answer 5

It should be a compromise. I personally don't like Clyde either for a first name. I think you are being fair by still using it but giving him a relatively normal first name. Just stick to your guns. Aiden Clyde still has a nice ring to it...

Is there any partiuclar reason your husband is so set on this name? Was it a relative's name?

Answer 6

Talk to your parents and you in-laws to see which they perfer. Personally, I'm siding with you on the name.

The meaning of the name Aiden is Little Fire
The origin of the name Aiden is Irish

The meaning of the name Clyde is Scottish River Name
The origin of the name Clyde is Scottish

The meaning of the name Michael is Who Is Like God?
The origin of the name Michael is Hebrew

Answer 7

i actually know two people with the names aiden clyde kelly && clyde aiden kelly


lol ironic

but i hate the name clyde it reminds me of a cat

Answer 8

You are absolutely right - the kid should not have Clyde as a first name because you both don't agree. You have to both agree on the name. I also think you should get more say because you are doing all of the work!

Answer 9

Cameron Michael Kelly

Answer 10

tell him since you are allowing Clyde as a name that it can't be his first
I think Aiden Clyde Kelly sounds cute

Answer 11

Ask close friends and family memebers for their opinions at a gathering so he can hear what they say, not your translation of what they said. Seriously.. Clyde???... unless it was someone else in the family's name then I am sure most people will side with you. Once he hears that the other people closest to him don't like it either and wrinkle their noses to it he should change his mind.

However, if he still doesn't budge it should be a joint decision. That means you may need to get the baby name book back out and start all over. Sorry.


Good Luck!!!