i cant tell anyone else because i fear they will say it is my fault but,im afraid in my own home.my teenage son 14 is hitting me and calling me names like f***ing *itch and *ucking *hore.i cannot live with this any longer . i have had to protect my lil 8 yr old girl from him countless times .he treats her in the same way and i am afraid for her health,she has severe asthma,and he has sent her into attacks before.i have tried to get him help for his problems but nothing helps,i am ashamed and afraid to ask for help.what can i do?this morning he punched me in the chest causing me to hit my head on the bathroom shelf and i smacked him on the arm trying to get him away from me ...i just dont know what to do. what would you do?i love him but it is getting too hard to live with this.
2007-12-10 07:22:59 · 21 answers · asked by jesse m_violated for nothing 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
he is in anger management
and is seeing a counseler and a pychologist
2007-12-10 07:27:59 · update #1
Forget about shame and look for help now!
Help yourself, help your daughter and help him.
2007-12-10 07:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your son is endangering your's and your daughter's health and safety, you are fully in your own right to call the police. It is really hard to do that, since he is your son, but no one should have to live in fear in their own house. I know that you said you've tried to get him help, but maybe a visit from the guys in blue would shock him out of these horrible patterns.
You might also want to look to see if there is a women's shelter in your area for you and your daughter to go to when your son is raging. In addition to being able to give you someplace to sleep (as well anonymity), a counselor there may be able to give you some help and ideas on how you can help your son get through whatever he is going through.
2007-12-10 07:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him help right away. Especially before he hurts you or his sister really bad. He may even hurt someone at school and get into a lot of trouble. You should talk to his school counselor or any child phychologist. The longer you let this go on the worst it is going to get because he knows he can get away with it.
Since he is already in anger management and seeing a counselor, tell the instructor privately what he's been doing.
2007-12-10 07:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Protection is very important. You can call the police next time, that is if you can do no more to get him help. You can talk to him and set consequences for his actions, but it is important that you follow through. It is also very important not to engage when he goes to this place, you need to try as hard as you can to not yell back or hit back, it won't make an impression on him, he obviously gets to a place where he has lost control. If I were you I would physically leave with your daughter when he does this.
2007-12-10 07:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by JK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs 1. Church, 2. Anger Management or counseling, 4. medication, 5. Discipline
2007-12-10 07:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by clcs12780 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume his dad is no longer around to put some fear into him?
I used to be a right little bastard when I was his age and my mum and dad ended up threatening to take me to the police because they said they couldn't control me. I never found out if they actually would have done - but the fear of ending up in a cell or a home shocked me out of my attitude.
I think you need to use a little "tough love" like this on him.
2007-12-10 07:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by the_lipsiot 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your job to protect your children and if your son doesn't allow you to do that you need to think only about your 8yr old. Send your son away, call the cops on him whatever it may be. It seems that 'tough love' is the only thing that may help.
Please don't be ashamed tho, maybe call up your local government office and see if they can recommend someone or someplace where he can go. Maybe even someone you and your daughter can go and talk.
Good luck. ox
2007-12-10 07:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. You need to call the cops and get rid of him.
You need to look out for your little girl because she is going to be scarred for life if you do not handle this.
You must call the police, or tell your husband, if you are divorced, explain to him what is going on and that you want him to live with you. sounds to me like he is either on drugs, or psycho--in which case you need him to get help.
One more word--He is only 14 years old. Wait until he is 18 and can really do damage.
Get rid of him. Press charges. Do this for your daughters sake. If that were my son I would whoop the living $hyt out of him. But in your case--LEGAL ACTION.
2007-12-10 07:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by BirdogsID 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really need to call a crisis hotline and get some help before he SERIOUSLY hurts one or all of you. You shouldn't have to take this abuse and neither does your daughter. I know that you love him, but getting help for him will prove it. Go look in the phone book for a number to call. Right now!
2007-12-10 07:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanna say your lovely person and you dont deserve to be tease by your son as you are his mother.He doesnt respect you so you dont have to respect him,report him as soon as possible.I wanna say its just a begining of a real hell!!!!My mom has got a same brother and till now he didnt changed coz they allways believed he will change himself.By the way...he has been few times in prison and missed a court again!!!
2007-12-10 07:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Lana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he is a threat to the health of a younger sibling there is only one responsible thing to do. You MUST get him out of the house. He needs help and you are not in a position to deal with him any more.
2007-12-10 07:27:47 · answer #11 · answered by gator_ce 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋