He blames it on his 3 adult children who also live there, but on inspection, its clear that the build up of grease, detritus, grime and ground in dirt is from years and years of not cleaning. He has been a single parent so the chores are all his responsibility. He rarely lets me in the house, basically because I do nag about the condition of the home, I admit, however, my concern is that he suffers from asthma very badly and has diabetes and eczema. He does not accept that the condition of the home, with hair, dust, cobwebs, mould, grease and germs, will inevitably contribute to his health. I am concerned because diabetics can have a lowered immunity and I am worried that at some point he will become ill.
How do I get him to take this seriously?
2007-12-10 07:15:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Milly - i cant tell you how tempted I am but he would never forgive me
Sprocket - you cheeky basket, its not 'dirty' thank you
and.....just to confirm- his own personal hygiene is impeccable, thats why I feel that he has hope still
2007-12-10 07:35:32 · update #1
If this guy is so terrible why dont you just ditch him and find someone else who is up to your high standards. Mind you reading what you just wrote about him it looks like you have effectively dumped him already. Its only 13 days till Christmas though so you had better pull out all the stops to find another... hey how about Santa he is a bit on the hairy and pudgy size but at least he has helper elves to clean his place !
2007-12-11 06:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by 17pdr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to try writing something in I to don't clean much except for some grease & grim, stack up the dishes and mail and no wonder it will be hard to get a girlfreind though I had some in past years I also eat things high in sugar which a dietbetic shoundn't have I like to say there's23% of us an latley I've become worst!
2007-12-10 15:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always try the 'nuclear' option -- tell him that if he doesn't mend his ways, you've no future together. (It's an threat you should use if you're prepared to carry it through.)
If he hasn't changed after all this time, the likelihood is that he won't do it for you either.
Poor personal hygiene is an incredible turn-off in anyone, and especially so in a partner. Make him see hygiene sense, or find a man who's more capable.
2007-12-10 15:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by kinning_park 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care. Take charge. Take some time out. Tell him you are spending a couple of days with him. Put on your apron or you could call in a cleaning company to deal with it.Clean that house. Everyone will be happier for it. I see him as father who loves his kids but cant manage the housework and need someone to take control. Hes crying out for help.
2007-12-10 15:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by foxystorky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people live in grime and usually have been brought up in this type of environment. They don't see it any other way and think that this is the norm. You won't change them no matter how hard you try. Keep nagging till you're blue in the face.
2007-12-10 15:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tango 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you call Kim and Aggie. Seriously, they're always saying " If you'd like to take part in the next series.........". I think you can apply from the Channel 4 website.
2007-12-10 15:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't by this time, he isn't going to. You have to decide if you can accept him as he is, because honey, you aren't going to change him. He's a slob, he has always been a slob and he always will be a slob. If you marry him, count on cleaning up after him for the rest of your life.
2007-12-10 15:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get Kim and Aggie on him puddy!
I'm PMSL though my love cos your house aint a show home! Joking - I know it is not as bad as his - so seriously get Kim and Aggie in, its the only way!
no yours is just messy love, his sounds grim. BUT the kids could clean too!
2007-12-10 15:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My house is "lived in" and there are places where the cleaner doesn't go as often as it should, but it is Clean generally.
2007-12-11 12:25:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm if his house is like that what chance have you got in the future. He will never change and if you don't wanna live like that or be his slave/housekeeper for life find someone new!
2007-12-10 15:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋