im 15 and 30 weeks pregnant.. can you imagine how i look. well i live with my boyfriend. and he is 16 years old and he is almost 17 and he is already abusing me and i dont like it at all he does drugs and does everthing thing wrong well to me its wrong because i am pregnant i guess he says im too over protected..and he gets mad when im around him but every night its like nothing happend and he wants to have sex... and some times i dont want to and im fat!!! what do i do cuz he keeps hitting me
2007-12-10 06:06:41 · 23 answers · asked by happy mom of a Feb 2008 baby 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he tells me sorry..everytime and he tells me he is gonna change when the baby comes in 10 weeks but if he dont change well then im out but its so hard to leave him i feel so stupid because i love him and last night he tried to cut his wrist and i told him to stop and i tell my parents that he is real nice to me and i act like i am so happy with him but IN 10 WEEKS IF HE DONT CHANGE I'LL LEAVE!!! and lets see who willl be crying back because he wants to be in his childs life and be there for him when he gets older
2007-12-10 06:27:17 · update #1
he was never like THIS!! why is he like this now???
2007-12-10 06:28:00 · update #2
Leave his *** now. If he's beating you, he'll probably hurt the child as well. What happens when the baby is screaming and crying and won't stop? Do you know how perfect your situation is for a case of Shaken Baby Syndrome to happen?
2007-12-10 06:11:08 · answer #1 · answered by Candikane 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I know it's not what you want to hear or what you want to do, but you've go to leave him! He should not be hitting you especially while you're pregnant! If you really want to, you could have him arrested. You know that's not right, and he's obviously not mature or smart enough to be having a baby right now. and don't think you're wrong for getting mad! You have every right. It's about time he starts to act responsible and grow up, not getting wasted and acting like a young partyer with no real life, and definately not hitting his girl! How disrespectful!!! Think about it, is that the kinda house hold you want to raise your baby in? A drug attic, abusive father, and just all around piece of ****? If you make the right chioce and leave him he won't physically be there to support you, but obviously he doesn't do that now. And the good thing about it will be child support. He will be court ordered to give you money to support the baby. Please for your sake and the baby's... don't stay with this punk as* loser!!!! Have strength and respect for yourself!
2007-12-10 06:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you in school? If so speak to your counselors and they should be able to find someone to help you, At only 15 even if you are not living with your parents you are still a minor and there are many social programs that can assist you and your baby...He does not have the right to put his hands on you at all the best thing for you to do is to not tell him you are leaving just gather your things and go...if it comes down to you leaving with just the clothes on your back then do so if he is doing drugs he could do who knows what to hurt you, As far as being fat you are 15 as soon as you have that baby you will pop right back into shape don't let anyone tell you that you are not beautiful...bringing a child into the world is a gift so treat it that way. I pray that you find guidance and help...
2007-12-10 06:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by K-Anne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend are babies having a baby! How sad!
You need to call the police and ask to be taken to a battered woman's shelter and get the heck away from this boy. He will get nothing but worse as time goes on and he could end up hurting you or your child...or worse. You should also seriously consider putting your child up for adoption. You sound much, much too young and immature to raise a child. Call right now and get out of there for your safety and that of your baby.
2007-12-10 06:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi you need to go to a womens shelter as soon as possible the people there are very nice and then you can take care of your self and your baby If you keep on with him he will still beat you and then Childrens Aid will get involved and you could lose your baby. Dont stay around that jerk for a minute more GO!
Really worried about you, you and your baby do not deserve this.
2007-12-10 06:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by harmonyjoy5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can, go live with a relative, whether parents or grandparents or aunts or uncles. GET OUT while you can and before severe physical damage is done to you or the baby. if you think he hits bad now, wait until the baby is born and he doesn't hold back!! as far as drugs go, if you know about it being in the house - even if you don't use them - you will loose your baby to an orphanage when he gets caught because you will serve time too. put yourself in your baby's place and ask yourself what kind of life do you want to live as a child.i guarantee you don't want to sit and watch your dad do drugs and your mom get beat. you are a mother now and your life is not just about you anymore. i think you already know the answer to your question or you would not have asked it to begin with. you just need support. find a local church for support. you don't have to belong to the church for them to help you.
2007-12-10 06:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way honey, My little sister is 15 and currently pregnant with twins. Her boyfriend beats the crap out of her constantly, and she lost one of the babies. She has to live with that for the rest of her life. Your only 15, there are plenty of men who will want to love you and treat you right. Move Back in with your parents, or a relative and put yourself at their mercy. You need your family.
2007-12-10 06:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Elijah's Mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
run do not walk do not pass go to the nearest help you can find my dear.
Get help from whomever you can or what ever agency you can, get away from the father's bad choices so that those choices don't become yours.
You are young and have you and your babies whole lives ahead of you.
Try to get some help so you have the tools you need to deal with this situation. It most certainly does not sound like a good one in anyway shape or form.
Good luck, I wish you a smooth road to travel in life.
2007-12-10 06:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by wistaweee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are just making all this up. At 15 you are not ready to take care of a child on your own and you do not want this child being around this guy. Like he is going to stay anyway. Consider adoption, if not, at least have enough love to move back in with your parents. Get back to school and get educated. Life is hard enough. Good luck to you and that little one. I still hope your making this up.
2007-12-10 06:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by Jelly B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need to get out of there. if he is putting you under alot of stress you could go into early labor. call the police when he is not at home one day tell them your 15 and your boyfriend abuses you and does drugs and you want to get out of there can you send someone to help me?
before you call like the day before start packing your bags. when he is not there pack everything up, then place it somewhere where he cant see it and then that day if you want to call the police dont wait get them there and get to a shelter or go home. your in a bad situation.
what state are you in?
if you tell me i can go online and look up places that will help you.
email me
redhead11488@yahoo.com
i will be here for you
jesus loves you
god bless you
2007-12-10 06:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by BestFriendsForever1988 4 · 9⤊ 0⤋