Do both have to have the same friends exclusivly
2007-12-10 05:28:16 · 17 answers · asked by doug g 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can have friends with whomever you want to be friends with.
As long as it never crosses the line you can each have your own friends.
2007-12-10 05:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not go out looking for male friends, I just have some male friends that we have been friends for a very long time. I do not see the male/female as a relationship.. I just see the friend part. I think that anyone in search of a new friend who is male (if they are female) are asking for trouble in my opinion (of course if married). I am and always have been all my life a bit of a Tom Boy and feel that for the most part I can get along with males better than females due to the lack of drama that some can stir up and the backstabbing etc, etc. You get the picture. However if my husband were to begin a friendship with a female now in this point in our lives, I would be a bit concerned also. But to answer your question, yes I have lots of male friends who are just that.... friends.. (without benefits)
2016-04-08 06:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Janet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have many friends of the opposite sex. I would never look at them in a sexual way. I don't think we have to have the same friends, he's allowed his as I am mine. I would hope we all can get along but sometimes it doesn't work like that.
2007-12-10 05:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman when it comes to maintaining friends of the opposite sex, have better control over the situation of friends then men do!
2007-12-10 05:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong having friends off the opposite sex while married. Doesn't always mean something is "going on" with them. Chances are you had these friends long before you met your spouse.
2007-12-10 09:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by PurplePeace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with whoever you choose, and it's perfectly acceptable for you and your spouse to have different friends. I'm friends with several of the guys in my office and the building in general. A couple of them I've gone to lunch with or to get drinks after work. My boyfriend does the same thing with female friends he has. In fact, one of his ex-girlfriends is his best source of advice. Neither of us have a problem with opposite sex friendships, and we trust each other that it never goes farther than that.
2007-12-10 08:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by QT_Pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be "friends only" with a member of the opposite sex. Life could be pretty boring without it! The world is full of people!!
2007-12-10 05:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No opposite sex friends. Bad idea.
2007-12-10 05:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes of course they can
I have known many couples to have friends of the opposite sex and that's all they are is just friends
As to the second part as to whether you have to have the same friends excluslively I don't think so but i dont' know
I know my bf probably has some female friends but it doesn't bother me at all.
I'm not the jealous type, Not saying i don't have jealousy ln me i did but i got over it but just friends don't bother me at all
2007-12-10 05:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by rebel_angel031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one can be just friends with members of the opposite sex, and no I don't think you need to share friends. Each person has interests that are theirs alone, and should persue them..it will help them grow as people...you do need to tell your partner about these folks too...but that doesn't mean you have to share them.
2007-12-10 10:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two of my dearest friends are men. My fiance is fine with it. If there were any romantic inclinations, we'd have acted on those before I ever met my fiance. I have friends who are "my" friends and he has friends who are "his" friends. Sometimes we hang out with his friends, sometimes with my friends, other times he's with his friends and I'm with mine. It would be very limiting to expect us both to have exactly the same friends. Why can't we have separate friends, and why can't some of those friends be of the opposite sex?
2007-12-10 08:23:27 · answer #11 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋