i know i can only decide im just asking womens opionions, if you and the father split up before the baby is even here would u give the baby his last name or would you give him yours. i dont wanna give him the dads last name just incase he stops wanting to see him or watever am i being wrong?
2007-12-10 05:17:16 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Experience!!!!!!!
Give that child of yours YOUR name!!!
It will be easier for you in the long run...when schooling and all starts...and not only that if you should meet a wonderful man to become your husband he cannot just take his name...he would have to adopt him...if he has your name the baby or child than can take on his name as well...
I know I have one named after the loser donor!!! and that is what he is or was rather a donor....no child support always ran from it..and now to change my sons name to my married name would mean adoption...well not now because he is a teen it does say he can make that decision now...and he wants to....just for your own peace of mind give the child your name....Good Luck
2007-12-10 05:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, ur not being wrong.
i had a friend in this situation. she more or less ended the relationship with her babies father before the baby girl arrived. by that time she said for peace sake, that she would still name the baby after her father.
the baby never ever seen her father! once they split up, he didnt want anything to do with her!
im not sayin this will happen with u, personally if it was my baby, then i would name it after my own name.
but then again, if u and your ex are on good terms then sort it out!
2007-12-10 05:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not have a baby with a man I wasn't married to, but if that is the case, I would give him either my last name or both. Just because he wants to be immature doesn't mean he stops being the father.
2007-12-10 05:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are afraid the father is going to not want to be involved at any point then definitely give him your last name! At least you can know that you will always be there for him! And he will be proud to have the last name of someone who loves him!!
2007-12-10 05:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by Official Bethy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are split up give the baby YOURS!!! I speak from personal experience. Not only is my last name different than my moms, but I gave my daughter my ex's last name because I thought we would be "together forever!" (sigh... gag) I always had trouble in school because my mom's last name was different than mine. They were always questioning whether or not she was really my mother. As for my daughter, I WISH I would have given her my last name. Now I am fighter her dad to sign papers to let me legally add my last name to her existing full name. Its HELL! Trust me... if you are already broken up, or you don't see it going too far, then definitely give baby your name. You will be so much happier!
2007-12-10 05:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by Panda Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're last name! It's not like the father is there at the babies birth. You are going through this without his help so WHY THE HECK WOULD YOU GIVE YOUR BABY HIS LAST NAME?!
hah right?? Hope I helped!
good luck<3
2007-12-10 05:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what I would give the baby the fathers name,but that is just me.Most single moms would give the baby their last name but at one point in the childs life they are going to want to know their roots.I was soo glad my mom gave me my fathers name even though I have never met him,but again that is just me.It is totally up to you there is nothing WRONG about it.Or you could give the baby yours and his last name??
2007-12-10 05:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Victory 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son from a relationship that ended before he was born, has my last name. His father isn't around much, so it works out. I have since married, and I didn't change my name so we could still be the same.
2007-12-10 05:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Krista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give the child your name.
if you two are no longer together then it would be unwise to give the child a different name from yours.
My partner and I have a daughter, she has his surname, she will grow up knowing her daddy's name is that and her mummy's is different.
if the father is going to be having contact and you both split on good terms, then why not opt for a double barreled surname.
2007-12-10 05:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by looby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong, if I were you I would give the baby your name. I think that is a positive message to send to your child. You two will always be a family.
2007-12-10 05:20:53 · answer #10 · answered by hellnocutco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋