I am 28 and have been divorced for almost 3 years now, and he really likes my boyfriend. As explained in one of my previous questions, I am terrified to marry right away because I am afraid of repeating what happened last time. I just don't think I am ready. My Dad thinks if I wait too long that we are going to have illegitimate children (we practice safe sex, so not too likely). How do I calm his fears about me getting stuck raising another kid by myself (I already have an 8 yr old from my previous marriage and his father helps me to raise him, and is in his life)?
2007-12-10 05:10:16 · 8 answers · asked by bonstermonster20 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't live my life based on what my father says, but do you think he has a point? My boyfriend and I have discussed marriage and we do want to marry (in the near future, but think it is too soon after only dating for 9 months). We have also discussed having kids (which we both want, and we have even said if we get pregnant, we are financially stable and mature enough to raise children. I am 28 and he is 29). He does very well with the son I already have (from my previous marriage) who is 8.
2007-12-10 05:37:31 · update #1
Don't be pressured by anyone.
While it is good to have talked about these things, when you both feel it is time then it will be.
Politely, but firmly ask your father to allow you to live your life as you see fit. Tell him you appreciate his advice, but it is not relevant in this case.
2007-12-10 05:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why let your dad railroad you into a marriage you are not ready for. My goodness!! You are not a child!! If you and your bf have the intention to marry eventually, why not do a couple sessions with a couple's counselor? Can't hurt!! Might help you move thru your apprehension down the road.
2007-12-10 05:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how long have you known this boyfriend? you should wait at least 2 years between knowing him and getting married. that way you can explore each other's strengths and weaknesses. don't let anyone tell you you need to get married within a certain time limit. that's not right...
2007-12-10 05:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by ==cj== 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to butt out or else he risks losing you. The last thing you need is a meddling father trying to run your life for you.
2007-12-10 05:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with someone you aren't married to. Your father has no control over your behavior, only you do. Accidents happen, moments of passion happen, and all birth control has a degree of failure.
2007-12-10 05:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
You are an adult now. Do what you think is best.
2007-12-10 05:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your instinct....you are of age so you can do what you like in life
2007-12-10 05:22:08 · answer #7 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wtf?!!!
honey, who is he to care about your sex life!
really if your not ready, YOUR NOT READY!
omg......
2007-12-10 05:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sonadora♥ 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋