I am 18 in March and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I am madly in love and we have wonderful times together. He is 22 years old. We both share the same beliefs on Jesus Christ and God. He is a hard working man and has his own house, car, and plenty of money. I'm starting college in January but would like to know if I should get engaged on my 18th birthday and get married a year or two later? Or should I just wait and get engaged after college?
2007-12-10 05:05:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you Proposing or is he......because You need to wait until he does the asking....he may not want to get married yet.
2007-12-10 05:09:42 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting engaged is fine but I wouldn't get married until after college. Give yourself time to enjoy life and live. If you still feel he's the love of your lfie at 25 then yea go for it. Just remember at 18 being madly in love isn't all that uncommon, you really don't know much about life yet.
2007-12-10 13:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love.. marriage..
Obviously if you want to marry him.. It means you love him that much.. which is amazing.. and.. rare? or not i don't know..
But you've found someone you truly love.. hard to find mate!
Your unsure? Anybody would be.. so many what ifs..
There's no right answer..
If you marry him.. I am very sorry but if it (hope not very much) doesn't work out.. then things well get bad and extremely complicated..
but if you don't marry him.. well.. you'll be on the edge.. or not? and you'll find out more things about the relationship and about each other..
Honestly.. I think you should take your time.. you love the person that's amazing.. but you never know of the obstacles that come with marriage..
I believe in love and all that.. but what is love when there is so many things stopping it and making it so hard to happen.. right?
Parents don't agree bla2 its a nightmare! and makes the love less...
So take your time.. my advice is.. Marriage is a huge thing..
This guy.. is going to be your husband.. for the remainder of your life..
your whole life..
one person only..
It's big..
So take your time.. that's what i say :)
Good luck.. and yeah.. ur lucky enuff to have someone to love..
so yeah :)
2007-12-10 13:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by krishna_sam20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you, that you need wait, what is the hurry to get married? I think right now, you need to look beyond on your feelings and look at whole picture. How are you going to pay the bills and get apartment? Do you want to go school and be married? Once you are married, you will be around alot of single people your age who are having fun and getting to explore life, you will have a husband at home be limited and have to be responsible with your marriage. You will probably have to get a job and go to school that can be stressful. If you both believe in God, prayer for guidance in this issue. The most important thing you have to ask yourself will you have regrets in 10 years from now, feel like you missed out on exploring life, did you get enjoy college, make news friends, explore and make your own decision for yourself. Finally, you have to happy with yourself. My advice for someone that married at your age is to wait and accomplish the things in life you want to accomplish. God bless and good luck
2007-12-10 14:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could possibly decide later after securing a Degree and job. The intervening period could be used, apart from studies and such other pursuits that help you to grow and enhance your knowledge, mind and personality, for getting to know each other better.Let us hope that Time would enrich your mutual relationship.
Socrates replied a young man whose question was , though not identitical, similar to that of yours as to whether to get married or to remain single as follows;
By all means marry, if you get a good wife, you will become happy and if you get a bad one, you will become a philosopher !
2007-12-10 13:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Chidambarank R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds sweet but you should wait 1 yr isnt nearly enough time to marry a person for life think bout that your very young and take the time to finish college enjoy your youth and have fun togeather believe me if you wait you will be glad you did
2007-12-10 13:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by just me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait. You will grow tremendously in your 20's. If he is the right guy for you, he will still be there after you finish college. Focus on you for right now. It's always good to establish yourself too. You don't want to be overwhelmed. There's no need to rush anything for you have eons. Just have fun spending precious time with him. Then you will know when it is time. You won't have to ask anyone.
2007-12-10 13:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 20years old to my first husband. He was 27. We had a wonderful relationship as long as we put God first in our relationship. As soon as we got out of the ministry, stopped going to church and stopped spending time in the word, we fell apart.
I would just tell you that if you decide to get married this early in life, be sure that you keep God first. It is very hard. You will be tempted to go out and do the things that you will think that you didn't get to experience before you were married. Keep your husband as your true best friend!
2007-12-10 13:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Michaelsgyrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still very young. I would enjoy life to its fullest now. You have so many experiences in front of you and will meet people in college that you will form bonds with for the rest of your life. You're still exploring and getting to know yourself and what you truly want out of life. I say take it one day at a time. If you are meant to be together, you will be together.
2007-12-10 13:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as someone who married at age 19, wait until after college. Give youself a few years to learn who you are as an adult and experience some life as an adult, before you start making that type of adult decision.
Good luck!
2007-12-10 13:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have the basis down. Do what you heart tells you. Remember that when you marry your obligations are to your husband, If you were to get married and get pregnant a few days later. Would you wish that you had the full opportunity to experience young life.
2007-12-10 13:10:39 · answer #11 · answered by Poetic Rocker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋