Which is more important in your love life?

Question

Being in a long time commite relationship, or being married?

If you believe that marriage is important, explain why and don't preach the Christian BS, because I don't buy it.

If you believe just being in a commited relationship, explain why?

Answer 1

For me, (aside from legal jargon) a long term commited relationship is the same thing as marriage. Here is my reasoning:
1. Most long term relationships today involve cohabitating (same as a married couple)
2. Combining of friends & financial responsibilities
3. Building a life togeather from the point you meet
4. Upon division of the relationship, 1-3 require the same finess of a divorice to keep the process within reason

Obviously marriage was created for religious and legal reasons, but for someone who is not religious, marriage only provides benefits for couples with children. Now, marriage does provide emotional comfort for either member with trust issues. For some reason, a married woman or man around your spouse is not seen as a greater threat than a single person.

I know this will probably get a few thumbs down, but this is my personal opinion & what I've witnessed.

Answer 2

Well, having been in a committed relationship for 15 years (that ended 5 years ago), and now being engaged to be married next spring, I can say that marriage is way more important to me. I am an atheist, so marriage has no religious meaning for me. However, as others have pointed out, marriage provides both of us with legal rights we would not otherwise have. It also provides some social benefits (unmarried women get no respect). There is also something very solemn and serious about declaring your mutual commitment in public before all your family and friends. I think it means more and will lead you to work on keeping the relationship strong more so than an unofficial union. There are more layers of bonding in a legal marriage than there are in an unofficial commitment that you can more easily walk away from.

Answer 3

If not for religious reasons, then look at marriage a legal contract that binds two people who are absolutely committed to spending the rest of their lives together, no ifs or buts about it. It is the final seal.

In my opinion couple in a committed relationship are afraid of sealing their relationship, because in there mind they think it will be easy for them to walk away and that there is something better out there for them.

Answer 4

I don't think it matters to be married or not. The only thing that matters is how u feel about that person. Marriage is more of a piece of paper then anything. Ya, it says how ur committed to one another but I don't need a peice of paper to tell me he's committed to me I will take his word for it. As long as I'm w/ the one I love thats all I need. Marriage or no marriage I will not love him any less. Give me ur word and I'll give u mine thats all I want.

Answer 5

Marriage, something denied to same gendered partners because of that BS you are talking about.

Legal marriage isn't just a legal obligation between two people, it protects their children and it allows them to make decisions for the other person.

I remember a caller at a job I once had with an insurance company who had a common law relationship for over 30 years. They had children, even grandchildren. He was a trucker, she was a housewife, and he was hit by a drunk driver while working over the road. His family never accepted their arrangement, and this woman because she was not his legal wife, was denied access to him while he laid in a coma in an ICU, was not allowed to make his medical decisions and was not allowed to decide his final arrangements.

This, if nothing else, is why all people should have the legal right of marriage to protect them and those they love.

Answer 6

A committed relationship is better for me...because if it doesn't work out (heaven forbid), there are fewer legal ramifications when it ends.

Some people get married, thinking that it will magically fix whatever is wrong with their relationship, when nothing could be further from the truth.

Answer 7

I am a spiritual person. For me and for my husband, the bond that marriage brings us is more than just being in a committed relationship. We share the same last name, we share the love that has taken us to the ultimate level.....It is not the piece of paper, and I find it some what difficult to put in to words....I will try. For me it is as though I have said to this man I love you for you, I love you enough to become joined as one with you in a bond of love in the purest of forms....you are my love, my best friend, my family and I feel as though my heart beats inside of your being, I feel what you feel, and love you enough to take care of your feelings, your heart and your interests.......I love you enough to help you achieve any goal, interest and to take care of you in a way that will bring to you health and happiness....I trust you to love me and to let me love you in a caring and trusting way. I have enough love for you to work through anything that life sends our way and to never want to leave you. You are the one, the only one for me. This marriage has brought me more happiness and comfort than I ever thought possible. He tells me he feels the same way. Marriage is what works for us here, our committed relationship before marriage was out standing, however after we married it changed, for the better I might add........he is my family.

Answer 8

Whether you want to hear it or not marriage is a spiritual connection under God whereas a committed relationship is just a relationship without boundaries.

Answer 9

Either one works for me. We married because we both mutually wished to make that commitment. Important? I don't know; guess it was to show that we were in it for the long-haul. Has worked for us so far.

And, to each their own.

Answer 10

everyone to their own personally i enjoyed being with my husband before we married but it just felt right to get married and no im not religous or anything