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Question

I'm am a new mom. I need someone to comfort me, because i am a wreck. My child is in nicu, and i'm a single mother. Please try to help me!!

My daughter was born at six and a half months. But she is able to breath for a few minutes, then she needs help. My email is [e-mail]

Answer 1

Hang in there hun! I had a NICU baby, and know how incredibly difficult it can be! Try to stay calm...know your baby is being taken care of, and do everything you can to stay busy! My baby was in for 3 weeks, totally unexpectedly. When I went into labor the doctor said he should be fine and we could most likely go home the next day or two. He was born and being 6 weeks early his lungs weren't fully developed. They rushed him off to the NICU while I sat there sobbing because I didn't even get to hold my baby. By that night when I finally got to go down and see him he had been intubated. So much for not being serious - and being able to go home soon. I found the most support in the hospital staff, the nursing staff was fantastic and would always help me to understand what was going on with my little guy. I finally got to hold him at 2 days old, and what a treat. 2 1/2 weeks later the little guy was finally off of his oxygen but still on a feeding tube and wouldn't eat on his own. I could get him to eat from a bottle, but couldn't be there 24 hours a day. I would wake up every 2 hours in the night to go feed him, and try to be there as much as possible, however I had another child at home. It became frustrating for me because he would eat for me, but not for them and I couldn't take him home until he ate full meals for 24 hours without the feeding tube. It felt useless, but for 3 days every feeding the little guy would eat for me, and it was charted that every feeding I missed he wouldn't eat. I guess I broke down, because I pleaded with the doctor to let me take him home, even if I had to learn how to do the feeding tube myself. And that's exactly what happened. The little guy came home on a feeding tube, and we used it only once, and he was fine :) He is now a happy 2 1/2 year old little boy, and I couldn't feel more blessed to have him in my life.

The moral of the story is, hang in there! I don't know your situation, or the condition of your baby, but make every effort you can to be there and go with your intuition. If you have any questions at all talk to the staff, they are usually more than gracious to help! Stay busy, read books, do crafts, watch movies, try to keep your mind occupied and time will pass faster.

I wish you all the very best, and hope you can take your little one home soon! Also, if you are feeling down or depressed at all, know this is perfectly normal! Especially in your situation!!! Don't hesitate to ask your doctor for help, even if it is for just a short time while your baby is in the hospital. You've been connected to the little one for a long time now, and it's hard to feel so helpless. There is no shame in asking for help!

feel free to email me anytime!

Answer 2

Babies who are born and have to stay in the NICU, have a higher chance of recovering these days. Take your mind off of this by concentrating on your babies' arrival home. Get the nursery ready, buy clothes, and start working on a baby book! Or try going to visit friends and just plain keeping yourself busy. The more you tend to think about things, the more time you have on your hands. This could prove to be bad and you could go into depression if you do not do something soon. Please just try and relax. Spend time at the hospital with the baby as much as you want. But, when you leave keep them in your thoughts but don't make it all of what you think about. Hope this helped honey, and I'm sure things will turn out for you!

Answer 3

I feel your pain sweeite. NICU is horrible, I know I have been there. It is a roller coaster ride, alot of ups and downs. Just know that this is the best for your little one, and it will all be worth it when you get to take that miracle home. I was a mess the whole time my daughter was in the NICU and I somehow thought I had to keep it together for her, but I had my days. It's okay to be mad and angry. I am sorry you are going through this. GooD Luck.

Answer 4

My daughter was in the NICU for 8 months. Shes had over 20 surgeries so far. I feel your pain! Would you like to chat through yahoo IM sometime? I may be able to better share some things with you that would be of comfort. AumNamaShivaAum P.S. I did try to email you and it said it is an invalid email address. So please do feel free to IM me! If you are for real!

Answer 5

My son was in the NICU for exactly one month. He was born at 30.4 weeks gestation. Is there something wrong with your baby or was he/she early? I am here if you need to talk to someone... I know about the stresses of traveling to and from the hospital multiple times per day, the heartache of leaving when I was released after having him.... Email me if you need someone to chat with! Everything will be ok... you just need to stay strong.

Answer 6

Whats the matter with your baby? Go back to NCIU and hold onto your baby's hand. As much of a wreck as you are, your baby feels the same way- unsure and scared.

Babies who have health issues at birth recover and do much better when they have skin to skin contact with their mothers as much as possible.

Iam sorry you're having a rough time, iam sure things will work out. Get as much sleep as you can, and spend your time with your baby.

Answer 7

Keep positive and try to spend some time with your newborn. Babies need touch and a sense of security. You baby will know that you are with him/her.
Everything will turn out just fine, You'll see. God bless you and your little one.

Answer 8

RELAX, DON'T WORRY TOO MUCH YOUR BABY WILL BE FINE. RIGHT NOW GET SOME REST. CAUSE LATER YOU WILL 7/24 STAND BY FOR BABY.GOOD LUCK