I'm a house-husband - my wife is the main breadwinner. I work some around my kids school, doctor, sports, sickness & etc. We agreed on this arrangement - back when my kids were still in diapers. I am very handy...in all aspects of running a house. Yes I can cook too!
The problem is her anger over the subject of division of labor...she has twice now, in the last few months, hit me with her fists and a stick, in the head, as hard as she can, in front of the kids...all the while cussing up a storm! (she attends church...)
She is not petite. I am 5'11" 165 pds., she out weighs me by 30 pds and is 5'7" , she can hit like a trained boxer.
If I call the cops...she'll lose her job.
I am baffled by this extreme reaction on the subject of household division of labor. I don't want my kids to be witness to this evil crap anymore. She kicked me out of our bedroom years ago claiming I snore...so I sleep on the couch. What more?
2007-12-10 04:16:22 · 8 answers · asked by Water 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, she is not physically abusive to the kids. Verbally? She is on thin ice.
I would hit her back, but a) then my kids would be the big losers. & b) I would probably put her in the hospital...I'm Irish!
2007-12-10 04:40:31 · update #1
I do have a part time job...I work for myself as a contrractor and make very good money when I work...I also do all the remodeling on our home and have only called a sevice man in once in 15 years.
2007-12-10 04:45:29 · update #2
Tell you are going to call the cops. This may force her to stop because she will lose her job. If it gets worse you and your family will have to leave.. Do you love her? You really need to be the man of the house.
Maybe you should get a part-time job. No one has the right to be bullied. Take video camera of her actions maybe there can be an intervention. She actually may not realize how bad she is hurting the family.
2007-12-10 04:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by cb32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was a man doing this to a woman, I would say call the police. I think you should too. This could end this relationship. I would not see this as acceptable. Could you go back to work? How about you taking the kids with you and hiring someone to help you? This is not a loving relationship and what she does is not good for the kids. Get out now. I wish you luck.
2007-12-10 12:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have slept on the couch for years, and she is being abusive towards you in front of your children. Sounds like you need to make some New Arrangements!!!! You might just have to call the police, you can't keep allowing her to hit on you. Maybe counseling will help . Either way, she has to know that there are consequences for her actions. Your Marriage sounds a little Loveless. Again, perhaps it's time you Rearrange your situation. Good Luck !!!!
2007-12-10 12:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by casper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much are you willing to put up with? You have given her the upper hand. he r doing this in front of the kids tells me that she is out of control and knows how to get what she wants and that you are going to submit. Either call the cops or hit her back.
2007-12-10 12:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by eyescu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops...... get a restraining order..... remove all the firearms from the home......hire a good attorney ..
she has a real anger management problem. does she treat the children simular?.
2007-12-10 12:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a good bare **** spanking, if you cant manage that, best you leave & take the poor kids
2007-12-10 14:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by dave19000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the cops
2007-12-10 12:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by solo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is time for you to ask her what she really wants from you without violence. tell her to think about it and to let you know.
2007-12-10 12:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by BelieverinGod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋