Why is it wrong to sleep with a married man?

Question

If you found your soulmate why shouldn't you be with him? He just met his wife first. Then comes along his soulmate. He can't get a divorce becuse of money, kids etc. Why should that hold back true love

Answer 1

I WAS the wife who found out.
It destroyed the family unity.
Things were never the same.

There are kids involved.
PLEASE don't take a chance.
Put yourself in their place.
How would you like it if it was done to you? & you were a kid???

After all that, I have questions for you.....

Is this what you really want???
The two of you will never be together on holidays.
You will never come first.

He will always consider the kids and wife first.

AND

What kind of a man would put you in this awkward position ?

Do you really want left overs??? The rest of your life?

Wise up!!!! Move on...

Answer 2

Its wrong to sleep with a married man because he's MARRIED. Really its not rocket science. Also, you're not his soul mate though you may *feel * that you are... I'm sure his wife believes they are soul mates as well. If he truly had this TRUE LOVE thing for you...he'd leave his wife and kids no matter what the consequence. He must TRULY love his wife and thats why he's not leaving her. He could just smell your gullibility miles away, he wants some extra sex on the side and so he tells you whatever you want to hear and whatever you'll believe.

He will continue using you this way until some younger, hotter, dumber "soul mate" comes along or until he tires of you, or until you end it with him or start putting too much pressure on him to leave his family (which he has ZERO intention of doing). Or ofcourse until his wife finds out....

Please do the WIFE a favor and tell her that HER husband is your apparent soulmate so you can (temporarily) have this sad excuse for a man and she can throw his sorry *** out and find a real man to spend her life with!

Trust me.. you 2 have no future together. You WILL realize that eventually...probably when you're all used up and old. A man (i use the term loosely) like this one will not change, so even if you do end up *with him* he will do this to you...I know its cliche, but it is oh so true.

You are second to his wife no matter which way you slice it. He met her FIRST, married her FIRST, she had his children FIRST, she comes FIRST when it comes to him scheduling time to fit you in somewhere in the day/week etc, he considers her feelings FIRST (since he keeps you secret...doesn't want to hurt the wife), Oh how the list of how you are only sifting threw the wifes scraps could go on and on.....

What a waste of your only life

Answer 3

If it's true love, he WILL get divorced. A man will make the ultimate sacrifice for love, trust me! If he's your soulmate, he will want a lot more from you than a fling at a hotel once or twice per week. It's wrong to sleep with him because you're enabling him to hurt a woman that you know nothing about, and innocent children that didn't ask to be there in the first place. If you don't think it's hurting his children, you're wrong. Would you feel comfortable telling the kids that their daddy sleeps with another woman? If the answer is no, then even you understand it's wrong.

Like I said, if it's true love, he will get a divorce, wait a respectable amount of time and then take things slow. You are unrealistic if you think that divorce and money will stop a man from being with the woman he really loves.

Answer 4

There are no reasons what so ever that he can't get a divorce. He just won't. Which means you may feel as if he is your soulmate but he doesn't feel the same about you. True love would mean he would want to be with you and you only. Go ahead and get yourself prepared...it's not going to happen. Basically he has already told you his family comes first. Another thing to think about, what would happen if he did leave his family and was with you? There would be another women. I'm not trying to be mean but you really need to get your head out of the clouds.

Answer 5

Ok, this is going to be an extreme example but it's the same idea:

If you have a friend and he asks you to shoplift something for him, would you do it? Probably not.

Well, when a married guy cheats, he's essentially enlisting you as a partner in his crime against 1) his vows and 2) betraying his wife. I can't imagine how guilty I would feel KNOWING that I contributed to another women being so incredibly heart broken and betrayed. We women have to stick together. We've all been hurt by a man in the past and it doesn't feel good. So why, as a woman, would you HELP a man to hurt his wife? That's awful.

I've never understood why a woman would ever even be attracted to a married man in the first place. I wouldn't even WANT a guy who would even THINK of cheating on his wife....and even if he was in a terrible marriage, I wouldn't condone that behavior! A REAL man owns up to his problems and finds a solution - he doesn't just cower in a corner and decide to do something shady. When men say they're "staying for the kids," that's a bunch of crap. You must have really low self-esteem to be willing to accept another woman's scraps or a man's crumbs of attention instead of 100% of him.

Answer 6

Wow I see that you have stirred up quite a debate here and mostly against you. Well the thing is you're probably young, inexperienced and immature. I'm not trying to insult you but I say this because only a person like that would allow a married man to convince and manipulate her. Men look for the vulnerable type, ones with low self esteem and insecurities. Please don't believe his lies and don't fall victim of his sneaky betrayal. Of course he's going to tell you that he is unhappy at home and that you are his soul mate...how else is he going to get in your pants? not by telling you how much he loves his wife and family and that he will never leave them for you. 9 out of ten times you are only an entertainment for a married man. He basically already told you not to expect anything cause he isn't leaving his family, whether it is for financial reasons or not he's not going to be yours and is that how you want to live?

You need to put your foot down and at least test him. Tell him that you can't have a relationship with him while he is married and let alone living at home. If he truly sees you as his soul mate he will find a way to at least get a legal separation and move out of his house. While it is sad that a family is being broken up it is probably best that he be honest with his wife and of course that he continue being a father to his children and offering them his support. Do some soul searching and pray that God guide you and deliver you from evil.

Answer 7

The very fact that he met his wife first, and make a COMMITMENT to her is what makes it wrong! You can't say "he just met his wife first". He met her, fell in love with her and married her. If he didn't love her, he never should have married her. He should have thought about the consequences of his actions.

I question why you would even want to sleep with a married man. The very fact that he's willing to cheat on his wife, hurt his wife, and destroy his children's lives would lead me to question his character in the first place. I'm sure he's very handsome and charming and knows all the right things to say. Personally, though, it's those very qualitites that make me look at a man even more carefully before considering a relationship with him. He learned these things from experience, and I personally want my guy to have very little experience in that area.

Past behavior is the strongest indicator of future behavior. That's why you don't marry a man whose been divorced six times. That's why you don't start a relationship with a man who is willing to cheat.

However, after all these things have been said, if you've already been dumb enough to sleep with a married man and fallen for his lies enough to even post this question, then no matter what anyone says, you will continue it. Just know that your life, his wife's life, and the life of their children are all going to be ruined. The only person who will come out of this with completely intact will be him...because he doesn't really care about anything but himself and what he wants.

Answer 8

it's not true love if he's not willing to leave his wife for you. He has just as good as chance to still be a good dad to his children after divorce.Will it change his childrens life around yes of course Daddy stepped out of the marriage but it's worse being in a loveless marriage and expose children to that, I say.

Money shouldn't be an issue there are many legal aide resources available to those who are having financial difficulties.

If your so called " SOUL MATE " wants to be with you he will do it the right way by divorcing her BUT be ready to except the package that comes along with your "SOUL MATE " such as the possible alimony payments, child support, split custody, and the lovely soon to be ex.

As for right now your merely a passing time, had you been more he'd find a way to overcome these so called many reasons for not divorcing so he can be with you.

Sure I know in your eyes your saying I don't care he's with her he loves me, its not bothering me because he tells me he doesn't care for her, we share a bond that no other can have. Realistically your not there day in and day out to witness this so called unhappiness, this so called loveless marriage. He's feeding you what you want to hear to keep the intimacy going and you know that deep within your just not accepting it.

Value yourself, love yourself first! Entering and destroying a union that perhaps could have had a chance had you walked away as soon as you knew he was married is wrong and you'll see how wrong it was the day you do get married find your true soul mate cheating on you.

History has a tendancy to repeat itself let him go!

Answer 9

You're robbing yourself of true happiness. First of all, If a man REALLY wants to leave his wife he'd leave her regardless. Truth of the matter is he'll never leave home and it's not because he cant, it's because he wont. Married couples have their ups and downs and trust and believe their is NO ONE he'd rather share his good and bad times with other than his wife. The other woman is just there to give him the ego stroke he's not getting at home, so actually the other woman is helping keep his wife happy in a twisted way. If it's you don't sell yourself short cause in the end he'll still be at home and you'll still be at home alone for the holidays

Answer 10

What a heck of a question! He is already married, are your stupid to sleep with him? You are a woman too, remember the feelings of his wife and kids. Will you want to be a homewrecker? Go and look for a single man who deserves your love. There is no such thing as soulmate.