why would a wife say she should be able to go hang with guy friends and leave her husband home? at age 29 and married under a year? like go to the mall or out to lunch or this and that? make a comment that her other boyfriends didnt mind if she did those things--when she was 20, not 29 and a wife. i would never leave my wife home to go be with another woman, friend or not. who would do that? and why would she want to spend time with some other man than her husband.
2007-12-10 03:41:17 · 14 answers · asked by amayseng 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me as if this marriage just isn't working. She's still hunting!
2007-12-10 03:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely justified in asking these questions, and the answer in my humble opinion is simple, "SHE SHOULDN'T". Just as you said, you wouldn't do it to her, and by all means she shouldn't do it to you.
But why? It might be immaturity. It might be carelessness. In the worste case, it might be infidelity.
At this stage, (assuming you don't suspect infidelity) try to find away to peacefully, and lovingly discuss how it's making you feel, and what your thoughts are on the issue.
One of the big keys to successful marraige is understanding each others expectations. That of course takes good communication.
But yeah, no doubt man, that is very unacceptable.
Another thing, politely but firmly ask her to please not ever compare you to her boyfriends. You aren't her boyfriend you're her husband. Two very different things.
2007-12-10 11:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly unusual, and most married couples wouldn't do that.
It might help for the two of you to talk to some other couples about it, about how they see it or what they would be comfortable with, because it seems like you're not having much luck negotiating it with her. Otherwise, talk to a person with some experience in relationships, a marriage counsellor or minister, about what is reasonable and what will help your marriage.
2007-12-10 11:47:33 · answer #3 · answered by Graham 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it either but I am old school you have to remember this is a different generation is the wife younger then the husband?
2007-12-10 11:46:51 · answer #4 · answered by lisalisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kinda fishy to me. You are excatly right, why would she want to be with other "friends" then her husband. I would put an end to this right away. Tell her you dont want her to do this anymore. And if she refuses, tell her its time for you to move on. You cant sit around and worry about what shes up to, that no life to live. Good Luck.
2007-12-10 11:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by tarie75 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Kick, scream, yell .. do whatever you need to do to get your wifes attention .. this is NOT NORMAL for a married couple.
Friends? Yes! Alone with them? No!
Good Luck!
2007-12-10 12:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to calm down I go out with my male friends all the time as does my husband with female friends. Friends are friends no big deal
2007-12-10 12:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by sarah W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age doesn't matter in this.
What matters is the fact that you foolishly think you can control your wife with emotional black-male.
Grow up. Learn how to love and trust your wife or your fears will come true as a result of your actions.
Good luck.
2007-12-10 11:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
sounds to me like she is needing some attention but hopefully this doesnt turn into an affair if it already hasnt. talk to her, ask her what it is she needs and wants from you. this isnt right for her to do and she needs to put her focus on you, her husband, her life!
2007-12-10 11:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Evelyne L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that's just not right. Ask how she'd feel if you did go out with other women friends... your marriage sounds like it is in jeopardy
2007-12-10 11:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by dogriver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋