It all started a long time ago in April this year. Me and my friend started going out with him and his friend (her now current boyfriend) to get drunk! ..We would end up kissing and stuff but we have kinda got more intimate doing sexual things lately ..(yes we have even gone all the way but we aren’t going out!) I really like him enough to go out with him.. he makes me laugh as well as being gorgeous :P ..but he’s the one that wont go out with me because in September he joined army college, he has to stay there 3 years & can only come out on the occasional weekend. He said that he cant trust girls while hes in the army because most of them end up cheating and thats why he wont have a relationship. I wouldn’t cheat but I respect his wishes.. I treat him kindly and with respect yet he makes me look stupid all the time. He sees other girls, he knows I know he sees other girls but I can’t say anything to him because hes not my boyfriend. All I could do is stop seeing him but I cant!
2007-12-10 03:22:09 · 42 answers · asked by Yorkshire Gurlie ♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The last time I saw him was atleast 7 weeks ago, the last time I saw him we tried IT ..IVE ONLY TRIED IT ONCE! (Before we did it I asked him what I was to him he said what do you want to be..I said im not sure but am i a weekend thing and he said NO) ...He tells my friends boyfriend everything we do and even makes things up! Today I found out that he told my friends boyfriend who told my friend that while he l!cked me out once I started to f!nger myself..ITS NOT TRUE! && Its making me look like a sl ut ..Despite all hes done I still REALLY like him..even though deep down I know there will never be anything there ...Im dying to see him again, not to do anything but just to see him. He text me the other say saying sorry he didnt text me for a while hes been busy at army. It made my day and I couldnt stop smiling =(
2007-12-10 03:26:08 · update #1
This guy is having it all his own way & it really sounds like he's only interested for what he's getting from you. Trust me...there are loads of other ferat guys out there who'll be more than happy to go out with you & treat you right. This guy isn't the one.
2007-12-10 03:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
he is using the army thing as an excuse not to hurt you, he doesn't like you (sorry) if he didn't he wouldn't see other girls and the very thought of you knowing about it would make him freak out. He just wants sex because once he's in the army it'll be a little bit harder since there aren't that many women around. Stay away from him. Meet another guy, there are a lot of nice and cute guys out there, go out with them and stop wasting your time with him!
2007-12-10 03:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know its not right if he wont date you and its kind of stupid to keep going back to him but if you really like him then keep trying ive been dating someone for about 4 months now but we started hanging out about a half a year ago and he cheated on me.. we have our bad days and our good but i cant seem to stay away from him either so just do what you thinks best for you sometimes you have to hurt but in the end it might be worth it
2007-12-13 15:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even have to read your rather lengthy story to know the issue here. Put simply, you love another person more than you love yourself. Nothing good will come of it. You must get to the root of your problem, which is properly categorized as "self loathing." I'm betting you're probably a wonderful person too. That's what's so weird about these cases. Find a good therapist and commit to learning about yourself. That's where you'll find what's missing. Pimpin John is interested in your progress. Feel free to email him.
2007-12-10 04:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore these people sending nasty comments, because they are a bunch of low life people who dont understand about love. I know how hard it is but all you got to do is just get yourself to stop seeing him because he is getting the best of you. You will soon get used to it, just look for someone else, maybe you're feeling lonely and he seems worthless to me I've never heard anything so stupid in my life about what he said that he would go out with you but hes scared you might go out with other boys! That just shows he has no trust in you and he doesnt want to be with you, I think he loves you but I dont think he is showing it properly and I seriously think you need to move on you may really like him but we cant always get what we want so move on and maybe just maybe you will find someone better :)
2007-12-14 02:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let's see if I have this right. You've had sex with him, and you THINK you even like him well enough to go out with him.
Guys sure have it a lot easier now than in my day. They'd have to spend months of time and boatloads of money "going out" before there was the faintest possibility of their getting sex. Now they get the sex first, and "go out" with other girls.
Does this arrangement seem the slightest bit, oh I don't know, BACKWARDS to you?
He's using you. Drop him and take the whole experience as a lesson.
2007-12-10 03:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by helene 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get some respet for yourself love. Sadly you've learnt the hard way that girls who give it away dont get respect from the guys. If you went all the way with him without a relationship, how can he respect you or trust you now ?? Next time hold out love xxxx
2007-12-10 03:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this, don't you?
He's a total knobhead, and he's making a fool of you. Time to find yourself a nice bloke - and one that doesn't tell tales to your so-called friends. You can't trust him, you'll never be able to trust him, you're just an available mug when he hasn't got anyone better to do. He might be cute and good company, but he's a louse.
2007-12-10 04:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by who me? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are one of the many silly girls that find tough acting guys attractive. I thinks its sad, but then again its your choice. Most of the time people like yourself feel 'trapped' and crave the feeling of being with someone like him. I know because my friend is going out with one (we've both admitted we have feelings) but she won't leave him, despite the fact things aren't going well, and that she hates certain parts about him.
Nice guys finish last for a reason. Because the girls fail to see that a relationship with one would actually last. And its people like yourself that'd rather have a couple of weeks of excitement than a lasting bond.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get real!
2007-12-10 03:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Stop thinking you deserve only crumbs from a gorgeous jerk. Look for the cute guy who'll spoil you and treat you like a queen. In the mean time to keep away from him, see other guys and do other things for yourself.Learn art or dancing or workout to make yourself happy and guys drool.
2007-12-10 03:28:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋