Did you ever feel like this about pregnancy?

Question

Since I was little I would think that being pregnant would be embarassing. Just thinking about having a belly and showing it to my all my family, or to the world would make me feel really weird and embarassed. I cant imagine any of my family members touching my stomach, or waiting for the baby to be born, or visiting me after the surgery or anything! its so weird like it makes me sick... Also I've always thought that its nasty the way babies are born naturally. I cant imagine myself with my legs spread out for all the doctors and nurses ot seee !!! and then pushing like an animal? I know we're animals but it sounds, feels so weird! Im 20yrs old already and people keep saying that I will get the mother instict but I dont know... I've always felt this way! always! just thinking about it makes me feel weird and embarssed...(even if i was married and had my own house etc..) i would still feel the same way..why???

Answer 1

I dunno, you're pretty hot though

Answer 2

Sounds like you are associating pregnancy very closely with sex. Which makes sense, I mean, you have to have sex in order to become pregnant, but maybe for you it's embarrassing because you see it as proof that, yes, you've had sex. And everyone knows it! Your big belly is the embarrassing proof that you've had sex.
I think maybe that's not such a weird view to take when you are a child. My parents had 2 kids, and I remember when I was young I figured that they had sex - twice. LOL. Two kids = having sex two times! Because I didn't understand that you could have sex and not have a baby. And I remember being very disturbed by the idea that my parents did such a thing. Still am!

Everything related to the reproductive system is embarrassing when you are younger. I remember when I got my period for the first time I was horrifed with embarrassment. I told my mom in private and made her PROMISE not to tell anyone else. I mean, it is a natural part of life, but I felt so ashamed and humiliated. Probably because society makes us feel that way about these things. Even still women cannot nurse their children in public. You can't show your breasts. If you think about this, it's dumb. It's not a sexual thing, it's feeding your baby, but it's still considered indecent exposure and sexual if someone were to do that. Women are made to feel embarrassed about their bodies, it's quite sad.

As you get older, you realize that everyone has sex. All of the time. It's no secret. Especially when you are married. I mean, if you're married and you're NOT having sex, that's when something is wrong! Probably, as you get older, and sex is not so taboo anymore, you'll change your perspective.
If not, that's okay, too. Some people just aren't into the whole having babies thing.

As for the doctors examining us, well, I don't think anyone really looks forward to that. It is an awkward situation that you have to go through - pregnant or not! Childbirth is different, obviously, but the doctors and nurses delivering your baby see this kind of thing all day every day and really do not think anything unusual about a woman huffing and puffing and pushing a child out. It's all they do!

Answer 3

I did not feel this way about my pregnancy, but I can try to give you some advice...

Just think that millions and millions of woman go through pregnancies, and vaginal birth all the time. It is the most natural thing that you can possibly experience. Just think that you have a litte human being inside of you that will one day grow up to be an amazing individual. It's a miracle :-) It's also very beautiful too. The pregnancy part and the giving birth part, there is nothing gross about it. I had my son naturally too, without any drugs. I knew I could do it because that's how my mom did it and her mom did it and so on. They didn't have any of these things for pain back than. My mother insticts didn't kick in until they put him on my chest after he was born, but before this, I still loved all children. I just couldn't imagine my self being a mother yet. Now I don't have to picture it anymore, I love my son more than anything in this world and wouldn't change a thing. I'd do it again someday too!

Answer 4

Well I honestly never viewed having a baby the way you do! It is much different once you become pregnant and certain views do change but I have always thought it was a miracle. I also work in the medical field so the though of nurses and doctors there never phased me at all. I did not have my first till age 25 but its a wonderful experience for me and maybe you just do not want kids ever.

Answer 5

I am very shy and easily embarassed about things, too. I am especially private about my own body, but being pregnant really does change your outlook on many things. You begin to bond with your baby and watch yourself blossom into a different person. Yeah, giving birth naturally isn't the most beautiful picture, but if you are like I was, at that point you really don't care. You are tired, irritable, unafraid to voice your opinions, and you really just want to see the baby. But if you never do want to go through that process, why not adopt? There are many children out there that need a loving home.

Answer 6

i never felt like that...

i've always looked at it as a completely natural, yet totally powerful miracle that my body would be able to nurture & grow a completely new person...

i also don't plan on going to the hospital & having a bunch of doctors & nurses around, nor hanging out with my legs wide open... i'm *probably* going to give birth in the privacy of my own home, with my husband & a midwife there... i am a very private person as well.

but that's just me!
no one else needs to feel the same... you may not ever want to have kids, and if that's what you want, that's what you want!

Answer 7

I think it is normal to think like this if you don't like children too much or perhaps you are just afraid to grow up. Giving birth is very natural and a thing that only we as women do. I think once you are ready to settle down and think about having a family your thoughts will go away or maybe not. some poeple just chose not to become parents because they value other aspects of their life more then an aspiration for a family--and nothing is wrong with that--to each is own!

Answer 8

When I was little I was weirded out by babies. The word "baby" freaked me out, to be honest.

Then I met my future husband, and very quickly turned right around.

I've been married for three months and cannot wait to get pregnant. I am fascinated by all things baby, from conception, to carrying, to birth, to actually having the child!

Don't worry, you'll change around. What you're going through is normal. I think it is mother nature's way of keeping us from having children until we are truly ready for them.

Answer 9

There has to be some reason for you to feel this way- some experience that you need to get past. You, yourself were born of your mother and look at how beautiful you turned out. Having a baby is beautiful.
Not everyone is meant to be a mother, but being scared is only natural. Wait a few years and open your mind up to the magic of creating a life and see how you feel.

Answer 10

In world every women wants to became a MOTHER by way delivery of a baby.It is a wonder full experience to a MOTHER and off course father also enjoy every moment of this nature gift.Now a days our Doctors have advance technique for smooth delivery (NO PAIN).Change ur perception about the pregnancy,became a mother of a child and u will really like to enjoy the world of mother's.

Answer 11

It's your life and your body-NOBODY can tell you how to feel about it-nobody. It seems all the answers your getting are telling you-oh, you'll adjust once you get pregnant..blah blah blah...the truth is, there are plenty of woman who feel the same way you do and they never have children. It doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you an individual! Don't worry about it-if your not comfortable having children, then don't have them. Don't let anyone tell you different :-)