In the beginning of a relationship most people wanna be the best partner or spouse they can, for their partner or spouse (people claim). But now a day's it seem's that when that moment in the relationship has pasted. All bet's are off now!!
Every man or women for themselves! Why is it that people bring their worst out in relationships? Lying, CHEATING whatever. People go in with good intentions and characters I guess. If they even really had any. But then turn out to be frauds!!!
What the hell is up with this? Why is it that the fraud comes out in people when in relationships?
2007-12-10 02:46:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I HAVEN'T BEEN DUMPED AND I'M NOT TRYING GENERALIZE!
HAVEN'T BEEN DUMPED NOT TRYING TO GENERALIZE.
2007-12-10 02:57:38 · update #1
AND I'M TALKING ABOUT, MAKING SOMEONE DO SOMETHING YOU DON'T DO. THAT'S NOT MY POINT.
2007-12-10 02:58:59 · update #2
In the beginning of a relationship we all hold ourselves back a little. We are afraid to show too much too quick. So you take the kind of person you are and modify it ever so slightly. Problem with that is you get someone used to the modifications and once you become comfortable with them ... you realize you don't need the modifications anymore!! You start to show your true colors and it is only then that you can decide and see if the relationship is going to work and whether or not two people are actually right for one another.
I think we all have our bad sides ... we all have flaws. Problem is I believe when we are with the wrong people it forces those negative qualities out of us because we are unhappy or just not satisified. It does not mean the other person is bad in the relationship ... they could probably be the best girl / boyfriend ever and yet the couple is not compatible. Once we stop being happy or content that is when all the flaws come to the front.
2007-12-10 03:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you seem to see only the negative in a relationship.People do not enter relationships because they think it will not work out.Each couple puts an effort into their relationship because they do care for each other.Maybe they are unrealistic in their expectations in a relationship or they lack the maturity to share a lifetime which requires give and take.People don't wake up today and say well I think I'll cheat on my spouse today,I'm bored.It takes time for a relationship to deteriorate.It is not every man for himself but it does require mutual respect and love for each other.People enter a relationship because in spite of all the statistics against their chances of success they are willing to take a leap of faith that they will beat the odds.Love is not guaranteed for a lifetime and anyone who thinks it is is in for a big disappointment.Being in love is easy, staying in love is a lot harder.Take care.
2007-12-10 03:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some people that just bring out the worst in each other like a conflict in personalities. And sometimes they didn't have the right intentions in a relationship.
2007-12-10 03:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth of a persons character can only be hidden for a little while.....The Truth is always revealed.
When we begin a relationship we overlook the flaws because Love is Really Blind.
We forget to do this as soon as we are married. We start to focus on how that person offended us and our wound instead of letting it slide.
When we start to see the wart it's not that gross but then one day OMG!!!! it's the nastiest thing ever.....we forget to look at it with love and we begin to naw at it.....cut it out and the person can't take and they leave.
We aren't frauds....We're just Flawed. :-)
2007-12-10 03:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it's right, there is no fraud! When it's right, your partner doesn't bring out the worst in you, he brings out the best in you. When it's wrong, I will agree with you that it brings out the very worst in a person. It's not good to generalize though, unless you're talking about bad or dishonest relationships.
2007-12-10 02:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I go in being me and will come out being me! I will change for noone, u except me the way I am now cuz 10 yrs from now I'll be the same way. I will not do what u would like in the beginging just to make u like me or fall in love w/ me.
2007-12-10 02:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pure Evil♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unkewl people are unkewl in or out of a relationship...and there are a lot of unkewl people in the world.
Divest yourself of people who aren't worth having in your life...and remember those types help us appreciate the groovy folks all the more. ☺
2007-12-10 02:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not all relationships!! Funny how we feel this way when one ends....but there we are jumping back on that merry-go-round! Hope you get over this soon! Good luck!
2007-12-10 02:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, my marriage isn't like that at all. Very honest and loving.
2007-12-10 02:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Brittney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋