I love my boyfriend to death and he is planning on proposing and i want to say yes, but i don't know if its to young.... we have been together for 3 years.
2007-12-10 02:42:57 · 24 answers · asked by Jessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In general, yes. Because there's a lot of growing and maturing yet to do. The number of "high school sweethearts" who go on to have healthy adult marriages is frighteningly low.
Wait until you're both out of college. If the love is there, waiting won't make it go away. I don't think there's a problem with being engaged, but don't actually get married until you have both graduated.
2007-12-10 02:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes 19 is too young. Wait a few more years. Otherwise come 23 or 24 you may feel bored and smothered. You have not grown into a woman yet, you are just one year out of highschool! Take your time, get an education and career, t hen worry about marriage. I dated the same guy from age sixteen until 21, and I realized that I didn't want to marry him...at 21. Thank God I didn't, I had no idea what a real happy relationship was like until I began dating my now husband. He's so wonderful and I knew we went together. The five year relationship wasn't horrible, but it wasn't exactly "right"...like my husband is. I married at 23, which is still young to some, but at least a few more years than 19. Good luck.
2007-12-10 02:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, 19 is too young. Simply because you change sooooo much between the ages of 18 and 21 (really even 18 and 25) that there's no way to tell whether you two will continue down the same path, and it's extremely difficult to make a relationship work when two people are headed in opposite directions.
If you want, though, there's no reason you can't get engaged and just have a long engagement. If he proposes to you, I would talk to him about having a long engagement and see how he feels about it. If you're planning on spending the rest of your lives together, there shouldn't really be a rush for the actual wedding, and it would save you a LOT of money if you guys ended up splitting apart.
2007-12-10 02:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♬♥YouBetcha♥♬ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have your lives together ( college, decent jobs ) then why not.. If Not, things will be rough.. You just got out of high school a year or so ago.. You are and will both mature and evolve into your own .. You've had parents to advise, support and take care of everything.. If you get married it will be just the two of you day in and day out.. The first year of any marriage is rough. Just think about it... I would suggest you both get your college and careers out of the way first.. I got married young at it was a struggle.. I do know people that have made it work. Good luck
2007-12-10 02:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think think so. I was married at 18 and divorced at 22. I came up with the conclusion that when you are 18 and 19 you need time to grow and experience life to the fullest. And not be tied down. So just wait and if he is meant to be then marry him when you have grown up a bit. It can work but very rarely does it. Plus save your money and have the wedding of your dreams. that is what i am doing now.
2007-12-10 03:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are engaged doesnt mean you have to get married right away. You can say yes, but wait until you are done college or until you are definitely ready before actually tying the knot.
I know morally some people think its wrong to live with your bf before marriage, but I think you can learn a lot about each other and make solid descisions before getting married that you cant learn otherwise by living together.
I'm 23 and the thought of marriage scares me, so i couldnt image getting married at 19. But, to each their own...
2007-12-10 02:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not about age, neither is it about how long you have been with this person. Remember marriage is the merging of two lives to become one. Can you handle that? Have you discussed finances, children, household chores, who will be working, or staying at home if children are involved. Are you sure you can handle the responsibilities (whatever it may be) to be a wife. Is he responsible enough to be a husband? Remember it is a lifelong commitment. So as long as you are mature enough, and it's not just a thing of passion. Remember the passion itself will pass away, can you live with the person after all that passion is no longer so there, when you have to worry about bills, and all the issues that come along with? If you are ready to handle the good bad and indifferent, then you are ready to get married, possibly!!
2007-12-10 02:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 19 is a young age to get married.
I would wait until you are out of college, and you both have jobs, that are stable, and pay good to keep you in a positive financial area.
If the love is there, waiting shouldn't be a problem.
2007-12-10 03:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Brianna H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, too young! If you're hell bent on getting engaged, GREAT! I would just stay in that state for at LEAST four more years. Go to college, get a great career, become whole people first and THEN if you're still together and still feel the same exact way about each other, GO FOR IT! :)
2007-12-10 02:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Marina 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You're way too young and if you get married now you'll regret it and start thinking that he's holding you back. You'll be missing out on many wonderful experiences in life and you'll blame and hate him for it. I got married at 21 and I wish I would of waited another year or 2.
2007-12-10 02:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by poopykins81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋