Should I tell my co-worker that her husband is cheating?

Question

Just wondering. I saw him kissing another woman at a parking lot near my house. My co-worker thought he was away on business. He never saw me. The other woman I don't know. I don't like my co-worker much and it would give me a kind of evil pleasure to tell her about her cheating husband. She has two kids under five and I don't think they are rich or even comfortable financially. I think it is really sad.
She is such a pain though that I almost can understand the husband's actions. Well, not really, but for a moment I felt almost sympathy for him. I think I should say nothing. Let them work out their own problems.

I am now having second thoughts, because maybe I was wrong about the guy. I only saw him behind and at the side. Perhaps, it wasn't her husband. I don't think I can say anything.

Answer 1

No. It's not your place - she will find out on her own. Be there to support her when she does find out but do not tell her.

Answer 2

Unless the husband was coming on to you or you were otherwise personally involved, I don't think it's your place to say anything. Especially if you're doing it out of spite.

In this particular situation, you're probably right about what you observed, but there are other possible explanations - such as the other woman being a sister or other family member (assuming it wasn't an intimate kiss). Or maybe even you were mistaken about it being her husband.

If you felt the woman really needed to know for her best interests, you could always hint about it without coming straight out and saying it. Something like "What did your husband think of the house he was looking at yesterday".

Answer 3

Hello...well, if he had the courage to tell you about him cheating, it should also come out from him to want to leave his job and start fresh somewhere else and also with you. This shouldn't be about you "letting" him stay or not, he should be mature and responsible enough to know that staying in an environment that's tainted isn't good. I can assume you're willing to forgive him...? But you should also look out for what he's willing to do about this, as he needs to make a lot of changes in him first to build up the trust again...

Answer 4

I, for one, would like to know. So you can't stand her... great, big deal. Are you saying you would tell someone whom you cared about? What kind of person does that make you?

If you work together, you know her work address... mail her an anonymous letter. State what was seen, on what day and where. Let this woman make her own decision as to where to go from ther, but at least give her the knowledge she deserves. I don't care how much of a b***** she is, she deserves to know. Maybe they would both become better and nicer people if this was to come out and they went their separate ways. Give her the benefit of the doubt... you may not like her but I am sure somebody out there loves her for who she is.
Give her the info she deserves to have...
Be the good person you say she isn't...
but DO make it anonymous... keep your evil pleasure to yourself, don't flaunt it to hurt her, she has enough being served on her plate by her husband

on another note, someone said she probably deserves to have her husband cheat... wrong! he is a slimy jerk who should go get a divorce first and play after.... where are people's morals?

Answer 5

Oh sure, tell her! That way you can be responsible for breaking up a marriage, hurting your co-worker, hurting her husband, destroying the lives of two small children and then you can gossip about it to the rest of your co-workers!

Just keep in mind that when you hurt innocent people you are the one in the wrong ethically and morally. And while you are sitting there judging her, her husband, and their lives, think, can you stand up to the that same judgement? Are you really so much better? Not by what you have written here!!!!!

Answer 6

Yes, you should tell her....and shame on you for even thinking about being happy that she's going to be destroyed. She has two young children!!!!!!!!

Maybe she APPEARS to be "a pain" because her husband is treating her like crap at home. And even if she IS a pain, so what? You're a judgemental person who takes delight in someone else's pain.

Write her an anonymous note saying when and where he was seen doing what, and maybe you should try to be more supportive, instead of so inhumane.

Answer 7

If you don't like her much, don't tell her. No matter how much you like or don't like her don't change the fact that she has feelings too and would be very hurt from this. News like this should come from someone who cares about her very much and sooner or later, one of her friends or her herself will find out for themselves.
The saddest thing about all of this is those two poor innocent kids.... they will be hurt just as much if their parents fall apart.

Answer 8

I wish someone had told me my wife was cheating on me ... I endured 2 years of hell before I found out for myself why the marriage was not working.

Answer 9

Stake out where you saw him..They probably meet at the same place(s) all the time. Take a secret pic, and secretly get it to her. You can mail it or leave it on her car.

Answer 10

Don't tell her. Most women know their husbands are cheating and just choose tio ignore it. Even if she doesn't know, she will never believe you anyway since you don't like her. You sound like a very mean vindictive person. What has she ever done to you?

Answer 11

Mind your own business!