There is this guy I am really interested in. He reminds me of a really good friend that I lost 2 years ago. Even though I like this guy I also have someone else I am interested in. I also have a friend who is also my roommate. This friend of mine I really like, but she is forceful, bossy and controlling. She is always trying to tell me what to do, blames me for everything, and acts as if I should always do what makes her happy. Though she will say its not that.
These two people do not get along he feels she is spoiled. She came in with a really bad attitude, he retaliated and they arguing. She blames me because he was my choice of a friend, and that I should have told him off for disrespecting her. I feel like it was between them, and I have no control over it.
I know she really wants me to stop being around him at all, but I am sick of catering to her wishes. I have no idea what to do at this point, and I need a little help.
2007-12-10 02:23:10 · 3 answers · asked by zinistir 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that you need to get another room mate, she sounds like a bit of a pain. It's none of her business who you see, it's not like you and she are married or anything (obviously you can't be, but you do see the point I'm getting at here).
It's not really choosing between them at this stage, it's thinking about what YOU want. Clearly she doesn't respect your wishes, and is looking for a doormat for a friend. Likewise he got a bit nasty and didn't attempt to defuse the situation, when he could have been nice and made her feel less threatened.
But I do think that it's time to find another room mate.
2007-12-10 02:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Flipping heck...She doesn't sound like a good friend!
If you wrote down all the qualities you would like in a friend surely it would be caring , considerate of your feelings , compassionate , a nice person even!
NOT forceful , bossy , controlling - basically a bully!!!
If he has any of the LIKEABLE qualities - then you should invest yourself and your time on him.....rather than be used by her as an object to boss around!!
2007-12-10 10:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by chandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is worried about you or jealous of your relationship with this guy. Never let a guy come between you and your best friend. Boyfriends come and go but friends are forever. But she can't control you and a best friend would understand or deal with your choice of friends other than her.
2007-12-10 10:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by jstchel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋