How do I tell him I'm keeping it?

Question

My fiance really wants me to abort but I just can't go through with it. I love our baby so much!!! I can't imagine living without him ...

But how can I tell my finace my decision?

Answer 1

This is YOUR baby and you are not going to kill it! Stand your ground, tell him if he doesn't like it, he can hit the road!

Answer 2

My fiance was the same way. Demanded I get an abortion. I told him it wasn't going to happen and if he didn't want the child he could leave me. I told him, if I get an abortion I will leave you because I will hate you forever, but if that is your choice let me know. If he leaves, don't get the abortion and be glad he's not in your life. My fiance would not agree to this so he EVENTUALLY accepted the fact that we were expecting. It took at least 6-7 months of my pregnancy. AND when our son was first born and I would be overwhelmed or tired he would say "you wanted him, I didn't". I told him if he ever said that again I would leave him, disappear and he would never see me or his son again. He never said it again and now loves our son so much, cuddles with him, plays, changes him, and is a great dad. It was a rough road but I stuck my ground and accepted the fact that I might be doing this alone, but because he saw that I would be okay with or without him he changed his ways.

Answer 3

at the end of the day you get the final decision it's your body. you just need to think of all possible senarios will he stay with you or do like some men and take off? if he did the latter could you cope alone/ would you want to cope alone. if you are really sure you want to keep the baby and you definately sound sure you just have to tell him be honest about you're feelings. if he truly loves you he will support you no matter what and if he doesn't then ypou and the baby are better off without him. good luck hun x

Answer 4

Well my dear, I applaud you for your choice to keep your baby. Why does your fiance want to abort the baby? Explain to him why you want to keep the baby, and the bond you have developed with your child, then you all need to sit and talk about why he wants to abort the baby. Explain to him that whatever the case may be this baby deserves a chance at life, and together y'all can make it through anything if you work together. It won't be easy, but the love that baby will give you all is worth the trials and tribulations y'all may have. If your fiance still can't see the beauty in keeping this child then if you can, move on girl. You can raise this baby on your own.

Answer 5

Sit him down and explain that you already feel love for the child and are unable and unwilling to abort it. You must be willing to support the baby alone as there is a very real chance your fiance will threaten to leave you, but then if he is so heartless as to try and force you to abort then perhaps he is not the right man to be with. He cannot make you have an abortion and if it is something you are not comfortable with then he has to accept that.

Answer 6

When my husband and I became pregnant.....surprise!...I was on BC and it caught us really off guard. We weren't in the best financial place, and it seemed just awful when we found out. I, secretly, was really excited. My husband has different views than I do, and really wanted me to consider abortion, however, he knew that it was my decision mostly.

I just told him. In an adult and calm way that I wanted to have this baby and it took him a few weeks, then he was fine.

Stand your ground, and hopefully, your fiance won't freak, and after a little while, he will see that everything will be great and work out.

Best of Luck to You.

Answer 7

you should tell him soon, cos eventually he'll notice. Men like to freak out about things before thinking them through logically, my husband has made himself ill with stress because we found out we are having twins!!

Your fiance may be able to cope with your pregnancy, but just need more time to process it which he will have to do if it is inevitable. But if he still thinks you are having an abortion then he doesn't have to think about it and it will just go away.

Of course he may walk away all together, but losing him will leave you less scarred than getting rid of a baby you really want.

Answer 8

I agree with Chik, if he didn't understand before you had sex that pregnancy could always be a consiquence, and now he's trying to run from it, maybe you guys should sit down and have a talk anyways! I am really wanting to praise you for not wanting to kill an innocent child because someone else doesn't want it - but in time, hopefully he will change his mind and love y'alls baby just as much as you do! Just sit him down and let him know how you feel. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 9

I wish you well with your baby, but please don't kid yourself that he might come round. My kids dad really did not want our second child, but there was no way i was having an abortion, i wanted my baby more than him. We struggled on for two years and he hated me for my "selfish decision". We split up and i was single for 5 yrs, but no matter how hard life has been sometimes, i do not regret my decision, my son truely is the sunshine of my world, a finer child you could not meet. The dad now has a good relationship with the kids but it's been a long haul!

Answer 10

I'm not telling you whether or not you should keep it, as that is your choice.

You seem to be quite clear that you will keep it.

The baby is both of your, you need to tell him that you want to have this baby together.

I hope that he will not flee and will take full responsibility for your baby. Things may not go as planned but thats life.

Hope that he does accepts your going through with it and sees this as the next step in your relationship.

Good Luck

Answer 11

If your fiance really cares about you then he will respect your decision. A baby is a big responsibility but ultimately it is your body. If he isn't willing to work with you on this then maybe it is time to look at your relationship.