are working mothers a blessing or not???

Question

when a woman of the house starts working, is it the home that suffers? who thinks the statement is right or wrong...please elaborate.............

Answer 1

Hello:

In a 'traditional' setting the man left the house to do whatever for money or food and the woman would do her thing helping the family in many ways as well as raising the children with her.

All in all I think children need their parents (preferably both) as well as other adults to help them grow up. It is through our parents and other adults that limitations are realized and if children are raising themselves or learning things from the world but without a parent to contextualize what they mean and what they think a reaction to them will be the child gets to figure this out on their own...or better yet through television and movies.

On the same hand if the alternative is to loose necessities of life like say the heat, the house, food...then this might be more important. All in all life is not all about money its not all about work. We get to be alive for such a short time that it really should be spend living and nurturing and I would say that each family should take stock of what they spend their money on. It might be better to do without than to do without Mom (or Dad). Kids may think they want a PS3 more, but they just don't know what they are talking about yet.

I hope his helps

Rev Phil

Answer 2

As a working mother, I personally do not think it is a blessing. I would much rather be home with my kids. I'm pretty much forced to work because we need both incomes just to get by. I KNOW my home suffers because of it. However, I do think that is always the case. Working is very rewarding for some women. Some families benefit greatly from it. We should always have the choice, and not be criticized for working. It does not make us a bad mother.

Answer 3

I've never known of a "non-working" mother. Whether within the walls of the household or outside, every mother works. And no one needs to "suffer" because she does. This is such a culturally biased issue/question. Why don't we ask the same question about fathers?? I'm so sick of the inherent bias in these types of questions. When, oh when, are we going to accept and realize that men have an equally important and significant role in raising children as women. Why do they get a pass on this responsibility simply by virtue of "working" outside the home??

Answer 4

I do believe that working mothers should be commended! I am a mother and I dont know how they do it. I spend all day washing ironing cooking doing school runs etc.. I know my house suffers when i work. I took a part time job and normal things were not getting done and I was tired and grumpy with my kids. I dont think its right or wrong just what can you live with.

Answer 5

Too many variables in each family to determine. Can you blame a mom or family if her working means they can afford health insurance, dental insurance, clothes and school supplies, maybe even college education for the kids.

Of course, less time with parents is not good for children in my view. But, its a trade-off. What if mom works part-time and dad cuts out the overtime he has been picking up. Seems like a win win situation. Children need quality time with their fathers too. I would rather see kids go to day care for part of the day - or with grandma or some family member - and spend 5 or 6 hours a day with mom alone and 2 hours a day with dad alone, than be with mom all the time and dad just comes home, eats, watches football and goes to sleep. Because then no one wins.

Answer 6

A mother working to support her family, is a blessing, as hard as it makes things around the household or not.

Some people cannot rely on handouts or do not want to, so therefore, they must work to support themselves and their loved ones. How could that not be a blessing, that someone loves you so much, that they'll spend all their time, making money to provide for you so you don't have to go without food or clothes?

Answer 7

There is only my life to refer here so this is not final answer.

Now my mother used to be miserable at home, even if she felt it was her duty, I think. When we were little older and she got part time job, it got much better for all of us. She was a great home maker, had much more energy at home too and was generally happy and optimistic.

Even women need something else in their life than just hubby and kids, but for small children's sake the part time or working mostly from home maybe the best.

Answer 8

My personal opinion: [so don't bash me] is that the home and family can be very negatively affected by a mom working outside then home. The home needs to be the safety zone for children, where their basic needs and love and belonging needs will be met. Empty houses after school are lonely. I know from firsthand experience. I suffered clinical depression as a child because of it.

Answer 9

It depends on each family and what works best for them. There can not be a blanket statement that applies to all or even most families.

I make a lot more money than my husband. We can not live on his income alone, but we can on mine. He stayed home with our babies when they were little and I worked. We both enjoyed this arrangement and he is closer than most fathers to his children.

As long as children are loved and nurtured by both parents it does not matter which one is the primary caregiver.

Answer 10

In American Society it takes two paychecks to endure. This means that the male and female share the load or the male works two jobs...The home may suffer with no mother in it...but quite frankly it is what is expected and demanded by society that comes to pass...This is another double bind that is placed on the mother...she is damned if she does and damned if she doesn't