I have friends who wait for people to invite them for Chrstmas, Thanksgiving, and any other celebration, the wife won't "do" Christmas for just her and her husband, they have no children and don't like it when they go to parties where there are children present.
How do I get her to see how selfish she is? She's a good person otherwise, but mooches off other people for her and her husbands entertainment. She doesn't decorate for Christmas either, yet expects Christmas gifts.
2007-12-09 23:47:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I have neighbors like that, they have more money than they know what to do with, yet they borrow all kinds of things from all the other neighbors and every weekend they find a way to get invited to someone home for dinner or a Pay per view sporting event, never inviting anyone to their home.
they never do anything for anyone, except if it gets their names in the paper, their children are the same way....Believe people like that will never see they are selfish..........but I treat them the same as all my other neighbors and I take them a gift, and baked goodies....and wish them a Merry Christmas....
2007-12-09 23:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kipper 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are tired of inviting her over but her not being gracious enough to do the same thing. Some people are like that. I have a dear friend that we will make plans to do stuff then if somebody unexpectedly shows up on his doorstep he will instead of showing the respect for who he made plans with not only as a human but as a friend, by calling, texting, or e-mailing that something's come up and he needs to raincheck, he will instead just blow off any prior plans at all and go do what he wants, because he doesn't get that is flat rude but the good about him outways that; that is how he was raised. If this bothers you so much, either stop inviting her to parties, especially the ones that children will be attending, letting her know that you are tired of entertaining them and them never returning the favor or just do what you have been this long: accept it and deal with it. Apparently something in their pasts have made them this way and you will not be able to change them, maybe if you and your mutural friends decide to stop inviting them to parties at all, they may get the hint but not likely.
2007-12-10 00:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas means differently to people. Some people all they think about gifts they get. others think about what they can give. Some people are greedy and wore raised that way. What you should do is make like you got this really big gift for her. act like it is some fancy place you going to. and take her to a shelter to help feed people. or if you know a neighbor who can't afford a meal. buy some things for that neighbor and have her go with you to deliver it. You kinda have to do a reverse scrooge thing with her. throw a christmas party at your place and make sure you invite people with kids and get the kids some thing small they can open up. let her see joy it brings them. play santa at the party. Christmas isn't about getting but giving. So there are ways for her to see the other side of christmas.
2007-12-10 00:04:28 · answer #3 · answered by sassylassy2876 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 07:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone change. All you can do is bring it to their attention.
She actually sounds like an unpleasant person---she's a mooch, she expects to be entertained by others, she expects gifts--the nondecorating thing doesn't bother me, I do or don't decorate depending on my mood. BUT does she even celebrate Christmas? That's the part that galls me, people who don't celebrate but expect to enjoy the benefits of celebrating.
If this woman is a close friend, I would say something to her about it. If she's not, don't waste your breath. She'll just get defensive and turn it around on you.
If it really annoys you, then start distancing yourself from these people or just don't invite them to as many things.
2007-12-10 00:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What's the problem? Maybe she doesn't celebrate Christmas, maybe that's why she doesn't "do" this holiday.
Does she really expect Xmas gifts? If so, then she should give them. If she doesn't expect them but people give them to her anyway, I don't see a problem.
Decorating? Not everyone decorates, so what's the big deal?
2007-12-10 00:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it selfish to want them to host? It sounds like they are invited to go elsewhere, and they accept those invitations. I assume if they don't receive an invite they don't go, or if they don't want to accept for whatever reason, they aren't forced to go. I don't see a problem. Christmas isn't about decorating, about keeping score on giving/getting. It does have a lot to do with personal choice when you think about it.
2007-12-10 00:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying kill them with kindness. Well not literally, but seriously if you enjoy having them around then what does it matter. perhaps she has issues with her past, which makes Christmas a hard time for her.do not judge unless you yourself wish to be judged. okay anyways don't spend your time wasted on the negative of someone else. spend your Christmas happy and keep your spirits up and just pray that this person finds peace with whatever has caused her to lose her Christmas spirit. Christmas is about sharing and caring for all not just the ones that share and care back..... Happy Holidays.
2007-12-09 23:56:34 · answer #8 · answered by a mom of two 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what I have been doing since my kids were real small.
On Xmas day we all go to the St. Vincents DePaul homeless shelter, and serve food, and hand out clothing, I have always wanted my children to appreciate what they have, and they have turned out great, I love them very, very much.
Merry Xmas.....
2007-12-09 23:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jake5282 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
plan out an outreach program with kids..
like a Feeding program..
maybe through this activity she'll realize the true essence of xmaz..
2007-12-10 00:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by TRE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋