child abuse, help?

Question

first hi :) missed you all. a girl, 14, orphan, living with her sister (same mother different fathers, all dead ) is being abused. the family doesn't want to get involved because the elder sister has attitude problems, but now this 14 year old girl is being beaten and i do not know what to do, i'm afraid if i talk to her sister her sister would abuse her even more, they both had a diffuclt life so i understand how this has also affected the 35 something old sister, but i need to find a way to stop this abuse, do i tell her uncles and family ?
when her parents died we offered to adopt her but her sister and rest of the family refused, now it's too late for her to come and live with us, her uncles woudn't take her because of the problems the elder sister creates, i'm stuck, anyway out ? help.

Answer 1

Ahlan Ya Sahar, I missed you on here alot but of course i get to see you on facebook- love your recent photos x

OK, the girl is 14 years now so if any younger i would have advised differently.

If you challenge anyone about this abuse in any obvious way then you will lose relations with the girl and not have any access at all to help her at all. The family already seem quite proud so its best to show such kindness that really you look like a fool with your amount of kindness just to get to help the girl.

Speak to them nicely, invite the girl over and to get involved in activities, show the family that you need the girl not that you are giving charity in any way but that you are a kind person and a good judge of the girl they have raised so you are thanking them so much (yani make a story that you need her help with anything and its so important), so by being a bit manipulative you get access to her. (but do it in a way not to make the sister jealous of your influenge on the girl)

Ensure that the quality of time you give to her opens up avenues of thought and opportunitys that she can use later on in her life. Always be a guiding ear and mothering, as you are, as this is what she needs and when she is in a place to make her own life chances, you helped her with them.

I know you would want to scoop her up in your loving arms and protect her, but its best to try and give to her the long term gift of your friendship by ensuring you are in a place to do that.

The girl is very near adulthood and circumstances could go out of control and she ends up in a bad place with no one to turn to, so hence let it be you. An orphan in Egypt will always need lots of more support because there is hardly no offical system to pick these children and young people up.

try and challenge the effects of the abuse indirectly with her by showing her that there are indeed very good human beings that will love, help build confidence and self esteem and respect her xx

Answer 2

I do believe that this is quite the predicament. Seeing as there are many abuse cases in the United States of America I think that you should call 9-1-1 or your emergency services number and report this after a beating has taken place. However, you could put the 14 year old into karate classes, this way she could learn how to defend herself.

Answer 3

You know I would love to be able to tell you a bunch of things that you could do, but the circumstances are terrible, and you have already tried. To try and stop this kind of family abuse is really hard, and the ONLY suggestion I have is that you could try and support the older sister, who is abusing the 14 year old because it sounds like she has problems, and if she felt that someone cared she might be less hostile. Don't talk to her about what she is doing, rather ask her how you can help make her life less stressful.

Answer 4

first , welcome back,

And thanks for ur good care abt the girl,

Its hard to tell u exactly what to do , bcoz it depends on the older sister , also depends on their family , and depends on u too,

u have one of this solution:

- Talk with the older sister (u and her alone) , and tell her with a suitable way depend on her personality , that she should not abuse her sister , and that one of the neighbors was going to call the police , but u stopped him , (maybe she will be afraid) , also u can tell her that God doesn't accept that at all, and that if she is angry from her , its better to treat her well , OR u can also tell her the same situation but for imaginary people , I mean tell her " one of my friends in work has younger brother , and she is treating him bad , and abuse him , she is totally crazy , and she had a lot of problems with the police and their family"

- Don't talk to her , and talk with her family (uncles, aunts,) and tell them that for God sake , they must do something , tell them imagine that she is ur daughter ,

- Call the police , and tell them that u always heard a lot of crying and load voices and that the older sister is abusing the younger one (I don't recommend this choice), I think also their is a number for human rights associations in Egypt which I hope they can do something,

- Don't do anything , but just invite the younger sister to ur house and make her happy ( I think this choice will make the other sister more angry)

SO , its ur choice now , I tried to put all the solutions , I hope I can help more ,

Take care , wish u good luck,

Answer 5

do they have anything there similar to the Department of Human Services?? i know in the states you could call them but I'm not sure how things are run there. try to find a child abuse hotline.. the family might just tell the sister and make it worse for the 14 year old... either way she will be in my thoughts and prayers and i thinks its awesome that you want to help. god bless.

Answer 6

You need to notify the Department of Family and Children Services or whatever it is called in you state. It may just be Children Services. They are professionals and they have the authority to take whatever corrective action is necessary. The will be in the telephone book in the government section or call the general information number for county services.

Answer 7

It think of the two considered one of them want greater interest, animal abuse, and new child abuse. for my area they're the two as undesirable a one yet another. No residing creature could bypass in the process the abuse some bypass via.

Answer 8

You call the police at once. The longer you wait the more likely she will sustain major injuries, not to mention emotional injuries too.

This sister needs to be arrested for what she is doing.

Do the right thing, call the police, you can remain anonymous, no one has to know it was you. Just call and save this poor girl.

Answer 9

Call the police---abuse is illegal. If you live in some sh-t hole country that allows it--then tell her to start swinging back. Tell her to get a stick and when these abusers are asleep--slam their heads till their brains run out. Call the police and settle this issue TODAY !! tell her uncles?? What will they do?? Get this girl to your house--it is never too late.

Answer 10

So... for me ive been involved with divice for a few years. well, im 18 now so im out jof the system now. but i was being abused by my boyfriend for 3 years and i called divice on myself . i know weird right? yeah. well they took me and put me in a program and i went willingly because i was sick of being abused. So to answer your question i think that you should call divice and get them involved. !