What's wrong in marrying someone who's older than you?

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with it. I married an older man and am very happily married. The problem is there are too many people in this world that have nothing better to do then stick their nose in other people business and judge people who they know nothing about.

Answer 2

The great love of my life and I of hers, is about 20 years younger than I am. We are each married to someone else so we totally avoid one another, including on the Internet. My wife is 12 years younger than I am but I knew her for almost 20 years before there was any romance.

It's interesting that people have an unrealized sense of proportion in the differences in ages and judge the relationship on this basis.

If the man is 30 and the girl is 15, that's scandalous. If he is 45 and she is 30, that's not so bad. And if he is 60 and she is 45, they may both be complimented on their good judgment. But the absolute age difference is still 15 years.

The real problem might come when one is 75 or more and the other 60 or more and becomes a caregiver rather than a spouse.

Of course, you can always do what Anna Nicole did and marry a really old person for the money!

Benjamin Franklin, on advising a young man about taking a mistress recommended an older woman (see his book "Fart Proudly."

I think that an older man may be a better choice for a younger woman because he substitutes deliberateness, maturity and experience for haste, inexperience and selfishness.

Answer 3

Technically there's NOTHING "wrong" with marrying someone who's older than you but there ARE a lot of things to consider:
1) How big is the age difference -- 5 years? 10 years? 20 years?
2) Personal likes and dislikes and friends -- 5 maybe even 10years won't make too much of a difference here but anything more may cause problems because of life experience and education and career backgrounds.
3) Family acceptance on BOTH sides -- will your family accept the person? Will their family accept you?
4) Are children involved? If there are children -- especially if they are close to either your age or your partners age -- that can often cause problems.

Also consider getting professional counseling if you want the marriage to "work". And good luck.

Answer 4

It depends on how much older. If you're 20, someone 5 or 6 years older is just beyond your own level of experiences. You're only 3 years out of high school and likely in college, whereas they may beyond college and thinking of career. Someone 20 years older than you, has already gone through a significant number of life experiences that you cannot share with them. It's that sharing of life experiences that leads to bonding.
If you look at it from the perspective of an older person marrying a younger person, if you are 35 and you're marrying someone who is only 25, they still have many emotional and personality milestones that they need to experience to catch up with you.
That isn't to say that a marriage wouldn't work, but you may soon find that neither of you has much in common to share with each other, because you're at two different life stages.

Answer 5

Nothing in and of itself, but problems can manifest later down the track that are often due - in part at least - to the age difference. It also depends on how great that age difference is, and how old you both actually are. The differences between ages decrease as you get older. eg. There's a far greater difference between 20 & 30 or 20 & 40 than between 30 & 40 or 40 & 60.

Answer 6

There's nothing wrong with it,I wouldn't suggest marrying someone 30 or 40 yrs older,because then you's run into differences of what kind of life-styles interest you's and that can cause problems.!!!

Answer 7

Nothing! As long as you enjoy each others company. If gays can marry, why would it be wrong to marry someone older (or younger)? The elderly still marry, and I guarantee it's not for sex and making a family!

Answer 8

There is nothing wrong in marrying someone who is older than you. My husband is four years older than you. Age is something that means only what that person wants it to mean. Age does not equal mental age.

Answer 9

Absolutely Positively Nothing.

Answer 10

Depends on the age gap, may seem ok now say you are 20 and they are 40, think about it when they are 70 and you are wanting to go out and still socialise and have fun!!!