OK, so I was talking with my cousin on the phone the other night and I heard her soon-to-be-husband saying something in the background behind her and then she said to me "oh, 'sam' (her soon to be hubby) wants you to know that his mother just LOVES you". I didn't know what to say since I've only met this woman 3 or 4 times in my life. I said "um haha, tell him I love his mom too(she really is a very sweet old lady)" and she did. Today she informs me that she is annoyed because his mom doesn't like her very much and she apparently "loves" me and she's kinda been taking it out on me since then. I don't know what to say. Did I say something wrong? Why is she acting like this? She declined my dinner invitation and has been very short with me. why did he say that?
2007-12-09 16:15:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
no shes overreacting its not ur fault his mom love u
2007-12-09 16:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your cousin to get her act together. Her future mother in law
isn't marring her. Sam IS. Live with the situation and don't be so
sensitive. If the sweet old lady is as sweet as implied, she will come around. If not Don't make life hard for yourself by letting
jealousy fester.
2007-12-10 00:28:27 · answer #2 · answered by klue 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. They're treating you rudely. Maybe that's why his mom doesn't like her--because she's rude? And she likes you, because you're not. It's not right to take out one's anger at one person on another. It's immature. Call her up and say to her that you've sensed that she might be angry with you, and ask why. If she says it's because Sam's mother loves you, then tell her that that's no reason for her (your cousin) to treat you badly, and your feelings are hurt.
2007-12-10 00:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Q 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not right. First off, it is a persons right of free speech to be allowed to express likes and dislikes. It is okay if you are prefered over your cousin. Don't let it bug u. Also, if your sister is making you feel bad, dont let it get to you. That just is NOT fair and not right. Don't fret and if your cousin continues tell her to stop or it is hurting you. When in doubt always communicate. You will always be safe if everyone knows how you truly feel.
2007-12-10 00:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by ~*BLONDE*~*AND*~*PROUD*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is just jealous because his mom likes you, but not her- her soon to be daughter-in-law. Naturally she is going to be upset but she is overreacting by not talking to you and declining invites to dinner. Try talking to her about it and say you are sorry she is upset and try and figure out ways for her to get along with her soon to be mother-in-law.
2007-12-10 00:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Madison 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs to grow up. She is very insecure.
If it gets worse tell her its best you'all dont talk for a while and it might sink in she is acting like a spoiled brat.
Are you sure she is the right friend for you ?
You will never be able to help her out with her future mother in law so dont even try.
They will come to respect each other in time.
2007-12-10 00:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by palma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuour cousin is being very childish. Tell her that, you treat everyone you meet nicely, and that her relationship with her (mother-in-law to be), is between the two of them, and has nothing to do with you. She needs to work on her personality. This is not your problem. Hope this helps!
2007-12-10 00:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by Snobunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. The fault here lies between two grown (and evidently immature) women: Your cousin and her mother in law. I say put hurt feelings aside, back away and let these two "mature" women figure it (if either one can) all out.
Be grateful you don't live in your cousin's home!!
2007-12-10 00:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. Your cousin is feeling jealous and is taking it out on you...the issue is with in her and possible with her mother in law..
I would just back off and let her deal with it.
2007-12-10 00:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Xena77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say anything wrong. You responded politely so you wouldn't offend the groom-to-be or his mother.
Jeez, tell your cousin to lighten up or get a new bridesmaid.
2007-12-10 00:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Mdme. Mango Keeps it Real 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend will get over it sooner or later. She's probably just irritated, because she is probably busting her but to get the mother to like her and she's not getting anywhere. I would sit her down and talk about it.
2007-12-10 00:19:17 · answer #11 · answered by evaj13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋