well we are a military family so my husband is gone alot. we have been married 2 years and we have a daughter together. well he is currently away to nevada and he met some girl in a club and gave her our home number instead of his cell number. they both say nothing happened and he says she is his friends girl and they were all goin to go hang out but something in his story and her story just dont sound right. he is coming back home this weekend and the closer it gets to the day the more nervous i get. can someone give me some advice on this situation. i love my husband but i dont know how i should act around him when he gets home
2007-12-09 16:04:40 · 13 answers · asked by totally sad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was drinking and didnt realize he gave her the home number
2007-12-09 16:12:36 · update #1
how should i act around him should i give him a warm friendly greetin or should i be nice but put up a wall till we get things straightened out
2007-12-09 16:19:25 · update #2
im worried about the way all of this is goin to affect our daughter. i am undecided about everything and all our friends say i need to give him another chance for our daughter but i dont know
2007-12-09 16:37:44 · update #3
If you love him and want to remain with him then forget it and move on; otherwise get a divorce.
If you read on here you can see countless times every day that someone is upset about cheating. the two answers I have given are the only two you should consider.
Cheating is nothing new and the rate is about 72% of women and 84% of men "cheat" on their significant other. So even if you divorce him and move on the chances are very great it will happen again to you, or you will be involved. So if you love him then forget it and move on.
2007-12-09 16:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would take the time and hear his story, he may have had intentions of cheating but when the wrong number was dialed that stopped progress. There is some real issues you two need to discuss of him giving his number to a girl in a bar. especial in Neveda where Aids cases are in the hundreds of thousands, and just as a safty precaution whether he did or did not cheat, do not take that chance, before any sexual activity happens get both of you tested.
2007-12-10 00:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by john d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first advice is to LISTEN to him when he gets home, this may be as innocent as he says it is, it may not, you should listen to what he has to say about it and go from there.
I certainly understand what you are going through having been in your situation before. The only thing I can say is that knowing is a lot better than guessing, so talk to him and find out what happened. He may lie to you he may not, but until you hear it from him in person you will not know what will happen next.
I feel for you, you have very little way to really prove things one way or another, and he is obviously going to say he didn't when you see him. I hope for your sake and your family's sake that he is telling the truth and you will be able to believe him when you see him.
2007-12-10 00:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't make an assumption.
speak to him and let him know you are concerned.
let him know you want to have trust in the relationship and giving the home number to a girl does not make you comfortable.
don't assume something happened.
be calm and deliberate.
don't jump off screaming or anything like that.
i hope all works out well for you family.
good luck.
ps: remember there is a very good chance he may not have done anything.
2007-12-10 00:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by ramni222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was drinking so much with her that might be a problem. I am retired from the military. You can not always tell for certain. Some of the guys who I thought would jump on amy woman, never cheated. Some of the goody-goody guys were cheats.
2007-12-10 00:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you believe him, because you trust him as your husband. Let him know at the same time that you would be really devastated if he ever did cheat on you.
After that, focus on your daughter, and let him get comfortable. If he did do it, he'll give you a hint soon enough.
2007-12-10 00:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by kusheng 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm married to a marine 6 yrs to be exact! same crap happend to me i had proof and took to the next level...... YES! his command ....they served him with papers and busted him down for being a cheating jerk....and a couples of days later he came crowling back.....but it was to late!....in the military they have NO tolorance for this nasty behaivor!! if you don't have enough proof though it might be aliitle harder for u...but he dosen't need to know that! u should just scare him by telling if he doesn't tell u the truth ur going to his command i guarentee u he will crack!
goog luck sweetie!
2007-12-10 00:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say talk to him, hear him out and then tell him how you feel. If you dont say anything its going to eat away at you and before you know it, instead of working it out and moving on you'll find your selves fighting and pushing each other a part.
Try talking.
2007-12-10 00:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anthony J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this time he gets the benefit of the doubt. It seems strange that this is friend's girlfriend, yet he claims to have met her in a bar.
There is no conclusive evidence that he has cheated.
2007-12-10 00:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if he is cheating and wants to hide, he wouldnt give her home number
2007-12-10 00:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Aiko 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋