Why do you think married men cheat?

Question

Just wondering why you think men cheat on their wives even after years of marriage and when they claim to be happily married and love their wives and family? Do you think they end up having feelings for other woman?

Answer 1

Gosh! I saw your question and I thought I asked it because your avatar look so much like mine!

I think men cheat because they can and the ones not cheating are the one who don't make enough money or are too ugly and/or too old and/or too fat and/or too lazy.

Anybody claiming to be "happily married after years of marriage" is either a liar or in denial in my book.

That said, I still think a cheating married man can still, in a way, love his wife and children, after all, she's the mother of his kids and his kids are his immortality and he knows it's still his duty to take care of them all.

Yes, I think he could end end having feelings for the other woman but I don't think it will be reciprocal, since she knows he's a cheater and eventually, will cheat on her too.

At the end, the man will realize he lost the trust and love of his wife and family, just for a hot piece of a** who will never really respect him and eventually will bore him again.

Answer 2

Men tend to cheat, because they feel something is lacking in their relationship. or because of their own low self esteem. Although misguided, they feel havening an extra marital affair will fill whatever void they feel they have in their lives. Sometimes men cheat because they are to selfish to realize how much it will hurt their wife. They want instant gratification instead of having to work toward a better relationship. A great relationship is something that takes work and doesn't come together very easily sometimes. Some men get married and have different ideas of what a wife is. Often times the wife and husband both have a different idea of each others role. This is something each one should ask the other before getting married in the first place. If his idea is, she shouldn't work, have babies and have dinner on the table when I get home, and hers is I want a great career , no kids till I'm 35 and he needs to be the cook , there will be definite conflict. Sometimes the short answer is, men can be pigs. I think most of the time it can be the greener pasture syndrome. He might find a woman that flirts with him and he has no financial or homestead ties to her, so naturally they do not argue about everyday things a husband and wife may disagree on, so she appears to be the greener pasture, especially if all they are doing is having sex. Then to him, she gives me sex and no problems. Hence, after the man leaves his wife and moves in with the "Other woman", he soon finds out he was better off with his first wife or girlfriend and it is to late to mend that bridge. If a man chooses to cheat on you, it is more than likely an issue with himself not with you. Please understand you don't need to make yourself feel bad because he cheats. He makes you feel bad enough. I hope this helps you.

David

Answer 3

Just to show how stat can be misleading, suppose there are 5 guys, A, B, C, D, and E. They all get married. B, C, D, and E stay faithful and married. Guy A gets married 4 times and is divorced 4 times. Two times for getting caught cheating. The one wife never knew he was cheating. This scenario would satisfy your stats, except the last line. There are 8 marriages with 4 divorces. Of course, all the cheating and divorces come from one guy.

Answer 4

Men cheat because they can and have no regard for the feelings of those at home or their relationships and commitments. It's easier to develop feeling for someone that is just fun and isn't there with all the day to day problems. Long ago I was tending bar and this gentleman walked in and in the course of a conversation said he was married and not looking for any shenanigans. This really beautiful girl sitting on a stool next to him, spun around and raised her blouse and flashed her very amble bosom and said, "What do you think of these?" His hands went out to touch and she said, "Uh Uh, you don't cheat and laughed and spun back around. The whole bar laughed and the man was mortified. He was way out of his league. Both women and men cheat on their spouses as if fidelity and trust don't matter. Why do they do it? So many answers . . .

Answer 5

A lot of men who deem themselves "happy" are really very sad with everything, including themselves. The biggest reason many men married men cheat is because it gives them a false sense of youth. They wish to relive that time when they were young and virile. In most cases, these married men REALLY DO love their wives and children, but the prospect of being with another, coupled with the newly-found thrill of pursuit often makes them open to their desires. Either that, or they strongly feel that something is missing in their marriages.

In rare cases, some married DO develop feelings for their lovers, and sometimes leave their families for the other woman. But it rarely works out, and they wind up right back where they started.

Answer 6

I think men cheat to supplement something that they are missing in their marriage. Mostly it's sex related...variety, freak level, emotional energy, excitement, etc. Some are drawn to another woman's personality, wit, charm, creativity and wind up taking it to the sheets. Not that the wife is lacking, they just don't have the discipline to resist the temptation. And of course, there are some guys that are just dogs and will always cheat (some women too).

Answer 7

Married men cheat because they know their wife will:
1) Forgive them.
2) She doesn't have a job so has no choice to just accept it.
3) She wants the same lifestyle and won't have it if she divorces him.
4) Because she is stupid and won't notice.
5) Because she doesn't care.
6) Because she is happy he is leaving her alone and bothering another woman.
And for your last question......yes, they sometimes fall in love with the other woman. Sadly, that won't stop the guy cheating on her either. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Somehow cheaters just feel they can do whatever they want as long as it makes them happy without regard for the feelings of the rest of the family.

Answer 8

I agree monogamy is asking so much of a person. You can love someone but still manage to cheat, because some people like a change every now and then and if you've been together for a certain time you can get bored and want to try new things, without losing the one you love.
For many its a win win situation, until the partner finds out.

Answer 9

Oh honey, I've been trying to answer that question for at least a year. And the only way I can answer your question is with a summary of my story...
I fell in love with a guy, that I later found out was engaged. We tried to avoid each other for awhile, but that didn't last long... for some reason there was this strong draw and connection we had for one another. When things got more serious, I was really surprised when he told me the "L-word". He said he loved both of us, that he wished he met me first. Later he called off his wedding, only to marry her at a courthouse 4 months later.
So, yes, in short, sometimes they do develop feelings for the "other women" (and in my case, no I never pressured him to leave her, since I refuse to be a homewrecker, and the wife still doesn't know). He found out a few months ago that he would be a father... and a month ago told me the "L-word" again, though we don't communicate hardly at all.
And on the other hand, yes they can still love their wife and children. And somehow still are commit adultery...

Answer 10

As time and life goes on, little resentments build up that are not spoken. The resentments build and build until men start to feel that they are justified to cheat. The wife's a nag. She doesn't keep a clean enough house. She doesn't understand him. Blah Blah Blah. He's still "in love" with his wife, but she doesn't love him enough. Then someone else comes around that "understands" them, and they start to share these emotional frustrations with them. And then it builds. Do they have feelings for the other woman? Of course. But they can actually have feelings for both of them. Then it really gets screwed up.