2007-12-09 14:49:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the people are willing to change. I had a friend who went to (religious) marriage counseling (getaway) with her abusive husband and he actually changed, and she was surprised by the effort. I guess the abuser has to own up to his role and be willing to change it. But if the abuser refuses to admit there's a problem and blames everyone else, then there's no hope. It would be best to proceed cautiously, get a therapist involved, and be prepared to walk away if need be.
2007-12-09 14:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder if a person could change completely because the person was abusive to begin with ... which means the person has abusive ways within themselves.
I would not trust an abusive person to completely change. Whatever triggers an abusive person will always be there ... just waiting until the right move comes along before they do it again.
2007-12-09 14:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An abusive man can change. But he will not change when his woman is still there. Why would he? If you are in an abusive relationship you need to leave.
2007-12-09 15:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tammy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If the abuser gets help and takes a long time to heal they might one day have a healthy relationship but the odds are low and it won't happen with someone they previously abused.
2007-12-09 14:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jen70 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If getting better is being dead? Look at all the women who have died because they thought it would get better. So yeah being dead would stop the abuse. Hopefully you can find a support group and regain your self worth.
I always ask ... would you want your daughter in the same kind of relationship you are in?!
2007-12-09 22:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Roxygirl71 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. But you must protect yourself in the process, as well. If the abuse is physical, you must remove yourself from it while your spouse gets help. Even mental abuse is damaging, but if your spouse is willing to work through it, and you can be strong enough to realize the habitual behaviour, anything is possible.
2007-12-09 15:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Shayna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to say an abusive person cannot change. But it is HIGHLY unlikely! Get out, get out now! Good luck.
2007-12-09 14:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mandy R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as "the right help"
these abusers are full of hate,and have to
take out their anger on the people that are
around them!
2007-12-09 15:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by Big Al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most abusive relationships only get worse not better. - Retired Detective
2007-12-09 15:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think with the right help it should be able to change, there is obviously a problem and with the right help that should fix the problem. Have Faith!!
2007-12-09 15:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋