Can two people really be in a happy marriage?

Question

I am not married, but hope to be one day soon. So I have a question to those who are married whether happy or sad. Can two people really be in a happy marriage for the rest of there lives? I've seen a lot of divorces or marriages that are just married becuz of the kids, don't believe in divorce, etc. I do believe that marriage is hardwork just like anything else in life. Well for me when I do get married I want it to be for all the right reasons. I'm the type that dont' believe in going to sleep mad, we have to talk about our problems. It just seems as if in every marriage something goes wrong.

Answer 1

yes you can be, however it takes work. Both people have to be willing to work at a marriage. Young couples today are lazy and they think that the sex and lust they had will carry them. As soon as it gets hard they run and hide, divorce and give up. This new generation is a waste in more than one catagory.

Answer 2

I believe it can be done. The key to a happy marriage, I think, is a little weird--to realize that you aren't going to be happy ALL the time, but that it's ok. Nobody can be constantly happy; humans don't work that way. Lots of people think that when the excitement is gone and things get comfortable, that it means it's time to move on to something more exciting; or when the going gets tough, the relationship must not have been "right". You MAKE the right relationship. A marriage is something you build, not something that just happens. Life is tough, and it never stops. Having someone to share all the highs and the lows with, having someone there to lean on and to support, makes a marriage worth while.

And in every relationship, romantic or otherwise, there are always points of tension. I don't exactly know what you mean by something "going wrong, but I do know that you'll never agree with your spouse 100% of the time. But that's ok! Variety is the spice of life. Who'd want someone who agreed with them on EVERYTHING?

Answer 3

Yes you can have a happy marriage, but your not always going to be happy everyday about how your marriage is going. Although that is a good sign because that means you still love this person and want to make it better. In every marriage something does go wrong...your right. Yet, you have to find the love in your heart to move on from mistakes. Even if it takes time. Don't nag at your husband to be late at night just because you hate going to sleep mad. When you wake up, its a new day. Also, things wont always go your way in marriage. Find a man strong enough to put up with your emotions & cares about your feelings. All women have lots of them :) K, well good luck with your future marriage & stay strong.

Answer 4

No two people, whoever they might be, (friend, sibling, co-worker, stranger, parent, spouse, etc.) can or will ALWAYS agree on EVERY single thing. It's how we handle our disagreements, and when a person is married, it helps to remember that your obligation is to treat the other with love, respect, honesty, and all the other kinds of ways that build up that person.
I can be completely enraged by something my husband has done or said, but it took me a pretty good amount of time to realize that my screaming or nagging was not the way to get him to listen, so I toned it down and now I can explain myself in a calm, clear and direct way, and he is really able to "get it" lol
It sure seems like it is a me me me world out there, and people seem to easily forget that marriage is all about giving.
And if BOTH people ARE GIVING, then both end up GETTING what they need.
Married (for the most part happily) going on 19 yrs.

Answer 5

Being happily married for the rest of their lives
is something that no-one can say happens, but
me personally having been married over 20yrs.
I am still happily married and so is my wife. The
key is both have to work continuously at it and it
is easier when both do it. Society and the surr-
oundings are challenges every day for a marriage
to be strong and happy, but the good thing about
it is when two people that are married work at it
togeather, then no-one or nothing can break it.

Answer 6

I truly believe it is what you said, it is alot of hard work and all too often, people just don't want to work anymore. They would rather move on to something new and different. Divorce is much to easy to get...I think it should be mandatory for a couple to attend counseling before a divorce is granted. I have been married and was for a long time. I was one of those that thought it would last forever, that was, until another woman came into our lives and my husband chose her. Whenever you do decide to marry, make sure he is the right one for you. Make sure you and he have alot in common, if not , you will have alot of heartaches. Be true to yourself....always/. One day I pray you meet that one person that you are positive you will spend the rest of your life with. , married life can be wonderful but it is up to two people to make it work.

Answer 7

I have been married for 11 years. I got married when i was 20, and i have to say it is hard, but it has been worth it, you have to take the good with the bad and not only be lovers but also best friends. I think marriage is a gamble, you are not ever promised it will last, or how things may turn out , you just have to hope that everything turns out for the best wheather you win or loose because both partners change as time passes, you just have to hope it is for the good! :)

Answer 8

Every marriage does have something wrong as does every relationship, the key is how you and your partner work it out and tackle it together. My parents were married for 32 years and together 34 before my dad died in 2000. I rarely saw them fight and when they did it was little things, nothing ground breaking. They always fought however to keep me happy and that has made me believe it is possible, it is a lot of work but anything worth having is don't you agree?

Answer 9

You sure can be happily married.

There is a recipe .. if each person gave over 100 % to the other person's well-being + never took the person for granted + treated each other as you first did when you met .. never let the sun set on an argument, be able to talk about everything, trust each other completely, do not control, be understanding,and have no secrets .. will usually promote a good marriage.

Answer 10

Yes probably if the two have matured enough to be pateint, understanding and have high respect to each other. Like for instance; a couple who never argue to each other and have often communication to each other that nobody go to sleep the night without an exchanging of "hi" How are your day?". This is the best intrument to used by any successful married couples, becaue they can settle and talk early their gap before it become irreconcialible differences.

Many couples neglect their mate due to their personal enterest and egoism. After years of their marraige either of one or both of them look something to a shortcoming then they need to criticez their spouse whenever he/she commit mistake to irritate them.