should i be happy or sad?

Question

my bf broke up with me
i love him TO DEATH
i can't live without him in my life
but i can't live with him
he cheats
he lies...and all that stuff a good bf WOULDN'T
the question "will you marry me" psh means NOTHING when it comes to him...and "i love you" means NOTHING
i was about to break up with him becuase i hate getting hurt
i love him and i'm trying to move on..i havn't cried yet. :\
but a part of me is him..and i can't just leave him behind..
he'll come crawling back and i WANT him to but i won't take him...
idk i know what you all will say but..idk

Answer 1

Honestly, it doesn't sound like you are ready to really turn him away when he comes crawling back. What you have to remember is that you are dating the ACTUAL lying cheating bastard that you have been with for all this time. You are NOT dating the guy you have in your head of what you want him to be and what you keep hoping he will become. That second guy does NOT EXIST, and never will exist at this point.

You need to spend some time focusing on you, you should be happy, sad, and numb, you are in mourning for a relationship that you wanted but never REALLY had. So let yourself be sad, let yourself be angry, and numb and happy, but focus on you and making yourself HAPPY.

Move on from this guy now.

Answer 2

Well if you want this kind of behavior to continue the rest of your life, stay with him. If you think you deserve better (which obviously you do or you wouldn't even question the relationship) then move on.

Guys who cheat rarely stop cheating. And the more you put up with it, the more blazen he will be and pretty soon he'll be doing it right in your face.

MAYBE (and this is a big maybe) if you break up with him, he will realize how much you mean to him and straightened up. Sometimes men just don't know what they've got til it is gone.

Good luck, Hon.

Answer 3

Yes, you are better off without him. Go ahead and cry and let it out. Once you feel better, then try and move on. You don't have to get rid of all of your memories of him. Keep the good things. You love him, but you can't trust him, which is why those words don't mean anything to you. And without trust, you won't be able to have a relationship. There will be another that will come along and give you all the good things and more. : )

Answer 4

You should be happy, because you are miserable, and obviously you like being miserable because you obviously keep welcoming a situation that makes you miserable. You know the definition of futility? It is when you keep doing the same things over and over again expecting the results to be different. What the heck does it mean to YOU to say "oh, I love you" to HIM, when he treats you like that ??!!!!! Girl, that is a two-way street! You should be thrilled that he broke up w you; maybe you can save up and buy yourself some self-esteem for Christmas, so that you can value yourself enough to know that you deserve better than being with someone who treats you like dog dirt. And BTW, the saying "I can't live without him in my life" is obviously true, because you have never allowed yourself the opportunity to find out about it, since you keep on folding like a piece of wet spaghetti and keep taking him back.

Answer 5

Doesn't it suck how much emotions can make you feel so confused inside. If only we could all just think with our heads and not our hearts. But we can't, and I know it hurts, but you already know that you will be much happier without him in the long run, it's the right now that hurts so bad and makes it hard to see long term. You'll get through it, and find true happiness in the end, I'm sure of it, just hang in there. Time heals all wounds.

Answer 6

You should be sad for just a little while..

But then the HAPPINESS will come filtering through.

You see, when one door closes, another opens. People come and go in and out of your life for a reason. They teach you about the importance of loving yourself. They show you that some people will hurt you.

Those who hurt you, were never meant to stay in your life forever. They are meant to be left behind so that you will find true happiness.

Answer 7

Sweet heart I know where you are coming from. I had someone who would cheat on me and I loved him very much. It sounds like you do love him, but believe me it is better for you to love your self and give yourself the respect you deserve and do not go back to him. I promise there is someone else out there that will never cheat on you and will treat you like the queen you are. I found my prince charming and we are getting married next year. If you do not get away from this bad relationship you will never find the guy who has been waiting for you since you were born!

Answer 8

The bad stuff he's doing is going to get OLD someday and you are going to be unhappy. Love changes from year to year and it sounds like you don't have a mature love relationship with him. (I'm not saying YOU are immature, just that the love is not in a mature state.) I think that when those feelings of LOVE HIM TO DEATH fade, and a more mature love takes its place, you would find yourself being very unhappy if you stay with him. Be strong, do what's best for you!

Answer 9

It hurts like absolute hell but eventually it won't hurt quite as much and then after that it will fade some. Right now it's the most horrible thing imaginable and before the holidays makes it worse. Keep yourself as busy as you can, do stuff with friends, don't dig out old pictures, emails and all that stuff either. Good luck!

Answer 10

you should be sad you just blew up your life as you knew it. You should also be happy that you will no longer be cheated on, lied to and made to feel like a fool cause of him. you must have strength enough to move on and be glad you didn't get messed with any more than you did. So feel sad and then remember the positive change you made