Or is it only the mature ones that are monogamous?
2007-12-09 14:02:14 · 23 answers · asked by airforcewolf 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people get together when they are younger .. then out-grow each other. They become mature adults who may want something different - and they grow apart from their mate .. so they eventually cheat.
Not all people cheat .. no matter what age they are.
There are many reasons why people cheat. It does not take an adult, or a mature person to cheat.
Cheating really has nothing to do with being an adult or maturity. Morals, integrity, honesty .. have more to do with it.
2007-12-09 14:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say there are many reasons why adults cheat. Some don't understand what commitment means. Others are looking for something missing in their current relationship. People make bad decisions and errors in judgement. It doesn't mean they are not mature. It all depends on each individual person, what's going on in a relationship, what's going on at the time, far too many factors.
I would say, if you knew how it feels to be cheated on, you wouldn't do it. The betrayal, the heart break, the destruction of trust, the anger and the questions that follow. It can feel like the relationship is so unimportant to the other person, they couldn't be bothered to tell you what was going on with them. This is where maturity comes in. Are you mature and honest enough to figure out what is missing, or what you need in your relationship, to admit you might need help, or reassurance, and do you sit down and really listen to your partner to find out what they need.
Relationships take work, communication, give and take, and trust takes a long to time to rebuild. Tempations cross our paths every day, it's what we do about them that defines who we are.
2007-12-09 15:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by calbrit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe during some periods, people have manic states and try to construct ways of severly hurting someone or sometimes not even having the intentions to. The adult could have psychological issues and not even know it or they feel they are mentally unstable and choose to avoid what's going on.
I've never been married or cheated on.. but my mother has hurt my dad in so many ways. She's subjected herself to prostitution soon after leaving my father. While she was with him she would go behind his back and have very many boyfriends "on the side". She was diagnosed as being Bipolar Manic Depressive. I'm a Psychology major and looking into this, it says people have these manic states where they strive for sex, drugs, and whatever abuse and not needing any sleep. Having intense urges and so forth.
Who knows really why adults do what they do? There's no one way to place an answer to this question without asking the person causing the problem.
2007-12-09 14:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Faithful is not always based on how mature a person is. But it more about being able to have self control. So you can be very mature and cheat but just because your mature does not mean you have self control.
But in a way guess you could be right because immature people are less likely to have self control. Every adult has little bit (some more than others) immaturity in them, just have them in diffrent areas. If we didn't then we would be perfect.
2007-12-09 14:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Sammy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can ever reach complete maturity. To say that anybody is completely mature would be to say that they are incapable of making mistakes and have nothing left to learn from life. Even as adults, we will continue to make immature mistakes, but to learn from these mistakes is actually a part of maturing.
2007-12-09 14:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by chainsaw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years and never cheated here. Temptations are in our faces every day and the weak ones always fall for it. So I say the monogamous ones are the strong ones. GREAT QUESTION!
2007-12-09 14:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by C D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a wife whose just been cheated on; I guess you could say maturity and monogamy go hand in hand. Being faithful requires self-control and any mature, responsible adult should be capable of that.
However, please remember, maturity does not come with age, but with experience.
People of any age who cheat are just weak.
2007-12-09 14:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by annatomix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have hit the nail on the head. It is only the mature ones, the ones that truly believe in their vows, that do not have affairs, the rest is still immature and won't ever settle down.
2007-12-09 14:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is mature. The adults that cheat are imature
2007-12-09 14:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Alex S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do alot of stupid things to each other. Being mature is something some never acquire. It's more an issue of uncontrolled urges and no desire to keep them in check.
2007-12-09 14:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋