but grown children have no obligation to help their parents if they are in need, economic need for example, and ask for help ?. Parents should expect nothing from their grown children should the parents, or the parent be sick, penniless, etc?
what are your thoughts?
2007-12-09 13:51:23 · 16 answers · asked by Idon'tlivehere 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Parents have right to demand respect children, the children receive much from parents and children are obligatid.
2007-12-09 13:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Could 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think the children owe so much to their parents for bringing them into this world and taking care of them. It definitely works both ways, the parents have an obligation to feed, cloth and shelter their children. The same with children to parents, they should have respect for their parents. Children should do little things for their parents, like get them a drink when they come home. Its a good training so that they will learn to care for others. Then when parents are old, children should help them out. However, if a child is married, he has more of an obligation toward his spouse than toward his parent. Economically a child should help his parent out, however, he is not required too. But if it would come to the situation where the parent would be penniless then yes the child should help out, after all charity begins at home.
2007-12-09 14:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by twingal01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cultures, the family bond is very strong and taking care of old parents is a no-brainer. Some kids do it because they love their parents. Altho it isn't a legal obligation in some countries - there is a moral obligation to make sure your parents are not out on the streets begging for food and shelter while you're in your condo gazing at the horizon with all the splendor of the sky. Its really up to the child/or grown child to decide whether or not he/she wants to support his/her parents.
2007-12-09 13:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the ways our culture has deteriorated. In many cultures around the world, and indeed, in our country until relatively recently, it was expected that the chilfren would care for their parents as they aged. The extended family was an important part of the society - grandma and grandpa often lived with their oldest child, and helped raise the children. Now, our society is too focused on ourselves, content to farm our parents out to nursing homes and assisted living facilities.
I am fortuate, in that our family still feels a strong duty to our parents. Indeed, we joking kid about fighting over who gets my dad and stepmom when they can no longer live alone - we all want them! If this was still a cultural value encouraged and nurtured in our society, we wouldn't be worrying about Social Security.
2007-12-09 14:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by rlb1961 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am always amazed how two parents can look after six kids but six kids cannot look after two parents, yes they should help unfortunately by the times parents may need help the kids have family and commitment of their own,they should still do their best
2007-12-09 14:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are responsibile only until the children are of age. Then they need to save , invest, buy insurance, and provide for their old age so as not to become a burden on the children,
Times have changed greatly since people had children to provide for their old age.
2007-12-09 13:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Family is family, no matter how old you are. If my parents needed help, and I could help them, I would, and I do. Honouring your parents is one of the 10 commandments. Anyway, why wouldn't you want to help someone who spent their time raising you, changing your stinky diapers, wiping your nose, putting bandaids on your scrapes, cooking and cleaning and washing for you...the list goes on. So, I'd rather ask, "WHY NOT?"
2007-12-09 13:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
Actually I never think of my relationship with my kids as one way, as in "me doing all the giving". Yes, we as parents rear them, feed them, send them to school & do practically everything for them. But we also so conveniently overlooked that "the children" gave us back so many intangibles such as "purpose & direction in life", "lessons about being responsible" and most important of them all "unparalleled happiness". Sad to say, not all parents think that way. They believe they are doing everything for the kids and give them that impression growing up that "you owe me". I never have that kind of mentality. I always have this question "what kind of life would I have had now without these wonderful children to cheer up my days??" Then I know that I'm not the only one doing things for them, but it's really a "two-way-give & take" relationship. Honestly I never expect anything from them when they grow up. It's all up to them. After all as far as I'm concerned, "they owe me the rearing up part", but "I owe it to them for giving me direction in life and happiness". We are even.
2007-12-09 14:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe FAMILY has an obligation to FAMILY. When a sister, brother, mother, father, uncle, nephew is sick..we should come to those members of our family for support. We all have an obligation to those we share blood with.
2007-12-09 13:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither have financial obligations to the other. They usually help one another out because they are family. If you need help ask for it. Do not take for granted that they will know or offer to help. Hopefully they will help you like you have helped them.
2007-12-09 13:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋