My ex-boyfriend who i left because he cheated on me wont leave me alone.He said that he is not allowing me to walk away,because he invested alot in me.I get the feeling he thinks i am his property.should i take out a restraining order against him or pepper spray him?
2007-12-09 13:44:20 · 32 answers · asked by Evita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's stalking you. Get the restraining order. If you get the pepper spray, never use it without warning unless you are in danger of physical injury.
2007-12-09 14:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by sdb deacon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't pepper spray him.That will just make matters worse.Try getting the restraining order first.This will make him back off.Or at least let him know you are not kidding.This may end it. If not you really have a problem.Than think about self protection.Don't meet him any where to talk.Stay away from him.Don't go anywhere he might be.For right now,don't go any where by yourself.Do get the police involved.turn in a report that he is stalking you.Let them advise you on the next step.
2007-12-10 00:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a restraining order against him ASAP. It don't sound like he is going to leave you alone until you do. Please take care of yourself, some men are just crazy and will do some stupid things to get what they want, and yes, make sure you have that pepper spray with you everywhere you go. Do the order, it is better to be safe than sorry. . . .
2007-12-09 14:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a freak.
Get the restraining order on him as soon as possible. And it would be nice to have the pepper spray nearby just incase!
2007-12-09 13:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order and some pepper spray.
2007-12-09 13:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. You are not his property. If the cops will not help. get lawyer and get some pepper spray.
2007-12-09 14:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by gr8ttguru 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order fast
2007-12-09 14:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by Grand pa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Evita,
You are noone's property hun! I see that you realize this too. However, I do fear for you and ask that you seek protection from the law...restraining order....whatever, it takes to set yourself free from this man! I ask, has he ever been physical? I mean, those are not rational words when one tells another "you cannot walk away....because a human is an investment?" YOu do need to be secure until he is out of your life.
Do you believe in prayer? I do! I do not want to offend you but, I believe that asking God to help, in your situation, is warranted! Too many times, women get hurt because men think they are possessions! If this truly is the case...yes, if You believe in God, I would ask that you pray as well. He is always with us and hears our prayers! Know that you may e-mail me, if you need or, want too.
God's peace be upon your life,
gail
2007-12-09 14:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I also wondered what he means by invested alot in you. Did he help you pay for college. Not that it gives him a right to hold on to you. Yea, you should probably get the police involved if you think he is serious about not letting you walk away.
2007-12-09 14:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋