2007-12-09 13:07:07 · 34 answers · asked by Could 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are loads of reason why women might want not children. Also it's possible they do want children, but not at this time - maybe later. The husband should ask for her reasons first so that he knows. Then he can address or accept those reasons.
2007-12-09 13:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unhappy wife with the current partner. It's pointless to try to find out why a wife wouldn't like the idea of having children, she just doesn't want to have it with their current partner, but is a matter of another man to show up and they would have it right away and change their mind.
Saying they don't want children is a way of putting the subject on hold, but in the mean time they consider the chance for someone new to show up an stay with that new person and don't go with that person with children from a previous relationship. The majority of the women would like to have children, some say they don't, from that group, almost none are saying the truth, the other ones they know is a way of putting things on hold, until the right person comes.
2007-12-09 13:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by livingthe30s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are a lot of work! And I've heard it kinda hurts bringing them into this world.
Many of my friends that don't want children simply haven't done all the things they've wanted to do in life - career, travel, whatever.
Some women just don't like kids.
Some women don't want to lose their figure so dramatically.
Some women are born without a maternal instinct.
Having children is something that should be discussed before getting married, for sure.
And what are the benefits of having children, btw???
2007-12-09 13:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by cas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't try to convince someone to think the way that you do. IF she does not want to have children, that is her decision, and a very mature one at that.
There are many people out there with children that were not ready or really are not responsible or financially secure enough to do so.
Personally I choose not to have children myself, and I get a lot of flack for it. It is a personal choice.(of course I am young and there is still plenty of time for me to consider it in the future)
You certainly shouldn't try to force or convince her. If she does not want children and has a child just to please you, that is not a good situation for either of you.
If having children is important to you, than you may have a decision to make as the whether or not the relationship you are in is serving you.
2007-12-09 13:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Uni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are myriad reasons why a woman wouldn't want children. Some people (like myself) believe that there are enough children already in the world, although I plan to adopt. Others just don't like children or think their lives are too busy or fulfilled enough. In any case, this is something to be discussed before marriage, not after. There's not much you can do to convince her now.
2007-12-09 13:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the woman has to do all the work of bearing them and 95 percent of the work of raising them. It's a job with long hours and no pay, no sick days and no holidays and it's thankless. Also, many women are very satisfied with their careers and do not want their careers interrupted with the demands of children. Some women don't want their body ruined from having kids, especially if they are very attractive and fit.
You shouldn't try to convince her. Instead, if you want children, look for a woman who does, there are plenty out there.
2007-12-09 13:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time, when women decide that they don't want children it's because of there up bringing, or things that were said about child bearing by close friends and family!
Your not going to change her easily, unless she's saying, she doesn't want your kids!
If she loves you and doesn't want kids, ...adoption is always an alternative.
If she doesn't, ...find someone who does!
You can both have a full life and house, even if they don't look alike!
Go Figure!
2007-12-09 13:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. If she doesn't want them you have no right to talk her into having them. It will only create a hostile enviroment for a child and not a good place to raise a child. In the end you will probably end up divorced.
So if you want kids that badly then divorce her and find a woman who wants children to marry. But you can't make her have kids and shouldn't.
No means no and there is a reason for that.
2007-12-09 13:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women might not want children because they feel they are not ready. having a child is big, both phisically and mentally. she needs to be prepared. In addition, she might feel that this is not the right time for her. Maybe she'd like to focus on her career for a while, or maybe she does not want to have children just yet.
i think you should wait, instead of trying to convince her. explain to her why you'd love to have a child, but don't pressure her.
2007-12-09 13:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by ♥fefe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharif...if a woman does not want to have children ...you should leave well enough alone...it is not your choice!!! I am 46 and childless by choice...some reasons include: doubting my ability to be a PROPER parent, selfishness...and who would bring a child into this god forsaken place...they don`t have much of a future what with all the hate, wars, racism,violence, global warming etc....y, they`ll just get out of college (already in debt)....and boom...nothing will b left! That`s almost cruel. And that`s just my opinion.
2007-12-09 13:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by hippiechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋