help how would you tell your family that ur expecting at 15 when they think you are this angle?

Question

they think you can do no wrong and how would you tell the dad when you just broke up and now hes dating your cuzin and cheating on her at that

Answer 1

Ok, I got pregnant at 16, (24 now and 2 kids) I think the first thing you should do is tell the man that got you pregnant, you need his reaction before your family, as it is his kid too. His reaction will help on how you decide to tell your family that you are pregnant. One of the first things they will more than likely ask is did you tell so and so, and then ask what happened. I thought my parents were gonna go baserk, and they were way different than I expected, for the better of course. But again, talk to the man first to help you figure things out, sometimes they turn out different than expected.

Answer 2

It's nice to hear you asking how you should tell people, rather than asking "Where should I go to get an abortion".
It's hard, but you can't put it off. Get it over with ASAP. Even if your family screams at you and whatnot, you will feel much better after, rather than holding the secret in.
You just need to sit down and be an adult about it. There's no way to do it, you can plan a great big speech, but when it comes down to it, you'll probably just blurt it out. That's the only way. Quick and easy. Well, maybe not easy. Just say, Mom, Dad, (or whoever), I'm pregnant. And see what they say. They may flip out, but you just sit there quietly, don't react, don't turn it into a big scene. Let them get everything out of their systems. Then tell them you love them, and ask them for advice/help.
As for the father, sounds like he's an a**hole. But he does need to know. Meet him in person for this, don't do it over the phone. After that, it's pretty much the same thing. Just say it, and get it out, and see his reaction. Tell him if he doesn't want to be part of the baby's life, he best believe he's paying child support! It takes two to make a baby!
Hope I helped, good luck with everything. I wish you and your baby all the best.

Answer 3

Who your ex dates now is the least of your worries.
I'd start thinking about adoption. There are families that can't have babies and are willing to pay women or in your case, girls-to carry to term and adopt out the child.

Are you prepared to drop school and work? Can you even get work at your age? How are u going to buy diapers and food? How are you going to afford daycare? Are you prepared to not have a social life? Will your parents raise your child? That should tell you if you are responsible enough to raise another human life.
and I'll tell you right now, just by the way you spell-you are not ready for a child. I'm not trying to upset you. Just trying to make you think. Because at your age, that's not something kids usualy do.
Check out these websites I've looked up.

-ADOPTIONNETWORK.COM
-CHILDWELFARE.GOV/ADOPTION
-ADOPTIONISACHOICE.COM
-KNOWLEDGEISEMPOWERING.COM
This should lead you down the right path.
next time-suit up and take the pill girl!

Answer 4

As a parent I would be crushed if this happened to my child. Just do it. It has to be done and the sooner the better for the health and well being of the unborn child.

The dad sounds like a bum. Tell him flat out that he's expected to live up to his obligations. Then don't hold your breath waiting for support. Take charge of your life and pull youself up. You got a little person counting on you now.

Answer 5

Families can be resilient if they put some effort into it. You can get past this.

First of all, you need to admit to yourself that you are not mature enough to care for a child and raise one. Adoption is the answer.

If you are thinking about having your family raise the child, that is fair to no one. How will the baby grow up and have a chance at a college education and the advantages of life? An adoptive family is often able to provide these things. You must think of the welfare of the child.

There is a great Bette Midler song called "Lullabye in Blue". If you aren't convinced about adoption, listen to the song a few times. You'll see the wisdom in it.

"Lullabye in Blue", sung by Bette Midler

I know that I'm no saint
My head is in the clouds
They called you a mistake
But I still say your name out loud
They called me a stupid girl
Just like my mom
Too many men passed through my arms
At seventeen I looked into your eyes
Knew I could never comfort your cries
Every April still reminds me of you
The child I never knew
My lullaby in blue

It all goes by so fast
How lovely you must be
Why you've reached the age at last
That I was when your daddy lived with me
How I wish we could meet somewhere
Talk it through
There is so much I would say to you
There are others, I'm not alone
A younger brother you've never known
And a baby girl who so reminds me of you
The child I never knew
My lullaby in blue

As the years go by
Try not to think of us sadly
Believe it if you can
I want to see you so badly
On your birthday, Mama's thinking of you
The child I never knew
My lullaby in blue
My lullaby in blue
My lullaby

Answer 6

That's "angel" and since you will need good, regular medical care you tell them right out. You screwed up and you're paying the price...don't make your fetus suffer too by waiting to make sure all is well. A lot can go wrong with a pregnancy, especially when it's in a child's body.

Answer 7

aww, dear,

what a dilemma you are in! but know that, if your parents/family truly do love you, then they will love you (and support you), no matter what :)

know first that you cannot hide your pregnancy forever. it's best to tell them now, rather than later (when you begin to show). it may be a bit scary, but it's always best to be honest and upfront because it will relieve some of the pressure that you are facing. also, you truly are going to need their help.

If you can, have your parents come together to meet you in your family living room/dining room by telling them that you have something very important to share with them...Then, simply do just that: tell them.

I do wish you all the best, and pray that everything will work out!

Answer 8

Seperate issues! Just tell them straight out.They may be upset for awhile.But they love you and will help you.They know your not Jesus! You are human!
It's time to grow up,and quicker than you should have had to!
Your ex,all you need is his medical history,his child support,and letting him see his child.
Your cousin shouldn't be dating your ex at all ,but especially when you just broke up!
And what's going on between them.Let them deal with whatever relationship they have.
Take care!

Answer 9

Start with your mother - assuming you have a good relationship with her. Mind you, good or not, she has to be told at some point. And the sooner the better.
Perhaps there's another close older relative who could go into bat for you??

Answer 10

Set them down and tell them everything and soon! Stay calm and remind yourself they could react badly. They'll be justified to be angry and let down. You'll just have to accept it. Let them express their feelings and get them out in the open. It's one of those things you can't just expect to tell them and them be ok with it. If you handle it maturely and respectfully they will come around. The longer you hide it the more angry they will be when they do find out. Your cousins situation isn't your business. You have enough to deal with now. When she finds out your pregnant let her handle her relationship with him how she sees fit. Worry about yourself and your unborn child.
Best of luck!