Is my husband lying to me ?

Question

I found a phone number in my husnand's Personal phone directory. I asked him about it and he denied knowing who it was. It read ME with the phone number. Then I found it on his cell phone's memory and again he just claimed this was his bosses's sister and she was Married.. I found out by asking his boss that this was a lie. She lives here in town and he said she lived in another town.
What do I believe or better yet, " What would you think ?"

Answer 1

he is lieing to you,but you have the phone number call it and see who it is and how they know your husband.

Answer 2

Trust your instinct! This actually happened to me recently. I found a number on my husband's cell and a copy of the text message he sent. The name was not a give-away but my gut feel says that it's not a business contact. I tried calling the number (in front of my husband) and he freaked out. She called back but he didn't answer his phone. He said that she was just a friend but if it's just friendship, then there should be nothing to hide. My gut feel was right as he finally confessed to having an affair. I sent a text to the girl telling her that I'm the wife and she had no idea that he's married. I think I did her a favour. If your husband is trying to cover up his lies, there's probably more to it. Sorry, I found this out the hard way.

Answer 3

First the pain really hurts and I am sorry for this. I understand that finding something that you really truly don't want to find hurts. I, myself have found things in my husbands wallet that crush me. I try to think of his positives but it is so hard. I found a free porn site that he had in is wallet that he claimed a friend gave it to him and he just forgot it was in there. I have found him on sites before and he always has an excuse. You can't compete with something you cannot reach yet you have the number so call it. She may deny it but you will be able to tell if she is lying or not. I hate this pain and understand. I am struggling with what I am going to do but I don't have an answer yet. I wish the best but call her.

Answer 4

Been here-done that. He is definitely lying. If you don't beleive me call the number now or keep your cool and just wait for your husband to slip up again. do a reverse search on the number you might get an address if it's not a cell. Just try to keep calm until you get all the facts. Sorry your going through this.

Answer 5

I'm not saying this is the case, but when I hide phone numbers from my wife, I usually put the first two or three letters of a woman's name, i.e. Mel, for Melissa, or Ant for Antoinnette. I'm not saying he's doing this but who knows. If he told you something and you found out otherwise, to answer your question, yes he did lie to you. But coming from a man's point of view, I don't personally think it's nothing to get concern about. I'm sure he appreciates your investigative work. He's probably flattered that you went through all the trouble.

Answer 6

Good police work! Why don't you use his cell phone to call her and see what she says when she answers it! If she knows its him calling she'll probably say something like "Hi lover, I miss you". If that's what you get then dump the lying bastard.

It does sound very suspicious but as they say "innocent until proven guilty", once you have some kind of rock hard evidence ask him again face to face and if he still denies it then 'take him to the cleaners' in a divorce court!
Good Luck!

Answer 7

I smell a rat! & I think deep in your heart you smell it to? You already know the answer to if he,s lying or not, you know him better then anyone else in the world & I think that if you do believe him then it is you who is lying to yourself in order to make yourself feel better, & I dont blame you, no one wants to think their hubbys are out their talking to other girls, it hurts! You can always follow him & of course lay low as you dont want him catching you, also why not call the phone number & question the person who answers the phone?

Answer 8

Get a hobby or something!

you shouldn't feel, it is necessary to keep an eye out for numbers that shouldn't be on his cell phone or directory, or pretending to be Dick Tracy

If you find it hard to trust your husband, when your not there, you should consider a separation.

Go Figure!

Answer 9

seems like he's having a little fun on the side, we don't know if it's in the early stages or a full-blown affair though
the fact he's lying bad makes me feel it's gotten to the guilty stage somewhat

well, face the fact, he's messing around, do you love him enough to accept this?
Most men who do this and deny it like this...they don't change, and if they do when caught, it's only temporary

I'm sorry this man is a poor excuse of a husband.
He's selfish and immature.

If you can't accept this, get your treasures together and get out when you can. Tell him, his behavior is disgusting and his parents should have taught him better values!

You focus on fixing whatever mistakes and also on getting out thee to find men who know your worth. Try group meditation and yoga especially...meetup.com too

Answer 10

I think you should go with your instincts. If you feel he is lying, and obviously you do, or you would not have asked his boss, then you need to get proof. Call the number, get a PI, but you have to be ready to accept the consequences and have a plan.

Good Luck

Answer 11

Sorry to say this, but it sounds like he is lying to you.

The question now is: WHAT will you do about it?

My grandma used to say you shouldn't go ahead with Plan A unless you had a Plan B, too.

Chances are, if he is seeing this other woman, sooner or later he will do something that will be total proof of it.
So what will you decide to do? Forgive and forget? Ignore it? Confront him? Kick him out and call it quits? It's up to you....No one likes to be married to a cheater, IMO.