We have been together for 2 years now and have never been more in love. He is in the marines and I am in college. I go to school about 2 hours from base. We've been talking about marriage recently and both really want to devote our lives to each other. Our families thoroughly believe we are not ready to get married. We are wondering if we should get a marriage lisence now without telling anyone. It would allow us to live together and ease finaces. (Currently he has to live on base because he is not married). I definitally stay in school; there is no way he wouldn't let me. I just don't know what to do because as it is we can't really spend that much time together without spending a whole bunch of money because I cannot stay in the barricks on his base and he can't be in my dorm room at all. Any thought? Thanks Jaimie
2007-12-09 12:22:51 · 11 answers · asked by perfectprincesses02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait to get married or risk having both families mad at you for the rest of your lives. Won't you still be in love in a couple years?
By the way a marriage complicates things. It does not make life simpler
2007-12-09 12:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by docC 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i know it must be hard for you. i dated someone in the millitary for a long time. i know it is hard. but think about it first. talk to people who know you well and know your relationship. get their opinion too. also, find out from your family why they are not in support. maybe you don't want their opinion, but they may have some good reasons. how young are you? marriage is a HUGE step. yes, you can spend more time together, but this is a LIFELONG commitment, not just a convenience to make your relationship easier. i am not saying that you feel that way, i am just trying to get you to think about things carefully. i jumped into getting married and now i am getting a divorce and left to raise an infant by myself. that's just me, but i am saying, just be careful how quick you move into getting married. you don't want to regret it later.
2007-12-09 20:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by jen19music 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as i know you should finish your college then think about settling down with your partner. You both should trust each other more often, when you decided to stay or lives with your partner then your responsibility is more.
It is better for you to concentrate on your study then to go into married life.
2007-12-09 23:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by sixers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a very serious step in relations. you can't just marry cause you don't have a place to see your boyfriend. Plus wedding is a very beautiful ceremony. You can't do your parents like that. Can you imagine how disapointed they are going to be? Wait a little bit longer.
2007-12-09 20:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
breathe, think then move. if your love is so strong then it will stand the test of time. if your family sees that you are going to get married with or without them, they will get in line. just remember open honest communication with everyone involved is the best and wisest answer.
2007-12-09 20:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by freeD 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that is the only reason you want to get married don't do it. If you truely love this man than get married. Tell you family and if they want to be there they will....if not they won't.
2007-12-09 20:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Babe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jaime, you're looking at marriage for all the wrong reasons, and so this has disaster written all over it. Please do not add to the statistics. There is no reason to go to this level at this stage for either of you, really.
2007-12-09 20:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by lmspencr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it behind their backs. Both of you are adults and if you want to get married tell them you are getting married. If they get mad let them. They will get over it.
2007-12-09 21:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're immature enough that you would consider getting married without telling your parents, then you're too immature to be getting married.
If you think you're adult enough to get married, then you should be adult enough to tell your parents about it and adult enough to take responsibility for your choices and actions.
Otherwise you're lying to your families, and proving them right that you're not ready to get married.
2007-12-09 20:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by Nandina (Bunny Slipper Goddess) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust in the parents, they are more experienced in this kind of stuff, they have your best interest, and don't want to see you get hurt. just wait. what's the problem with waiting. if your both in love, you'll wait for each other
2007-12-09 20:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋