He was married once before and has a son.. What can or should we say to him to get him to see that this is a REALLY bad idea? We've tried everything we can think of.
2007-12-09 11:51:49 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is an adult, it is his life. go to the wedding and give him love, support, and a nice gift.
2007-12-10 02:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by sugarpie2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your nephew is 28. That means that he's legally an adult. He gets to make his own choices whether you agree with them or not. Here's the kicker; if you really shout and howl about what a bad idea this is, he's going to marry her anyways and resent you. You get to be the bad guy and a one-way ticket out of his and his son's lives. Congratulations.
The only thing you can do is sit him down, ask him if he's sure and if he says yes then bite your tongue and get to know her. Try to welcome her as best you can. It may be that they really are in love. It has happened before. Throw a bridal shower, be a part of the wedding and give them all the good wishes. If, in the end, things don't work out DO NOT SAY, "I told you so." That's another ticket out of his life. Just give him the support you can.
2007-12-09 11:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by dstluke 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a mental problem he is having. The fact that he is 28, he is probably thinking that he is getting old and must rush the family asap.
But my grandparents got married only knowing each other for 3 weeks and have been happily married for over 50 years now.
Just let them be, this is their lives, and I understand that you dont want anything to go wrong for him because I know you love him. If it dont work out it dont work out but the more you nag him to stop, the more he is going to want to marry her.
2007-12-09 11:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphire 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As crazy as it sounds for him to marry a woman he's only known for a month, the man is 28 years old... there is nothing that you can say or do that will stop it. If you've already voiced your opinion, that's really about all that you can do. Maybe he won't go through with it... maybe he will and they'll be happy for many many years. Either way, he's an adult.
2007-12-09 11:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you've done and said everything you can think of then, at this point chalk it up to it's his life, and his choice.
Two Let him know we love you, and support you, ( you may or maynot agree with your idea) Just make sure that your son will be well cared for. And when it fails i would suggest being emotionally supportive should it fail but nothing more. And make it hard for him to do that.
Who know this may work out for him.
as far a question to ask him, can he see this women being the mother of his 84 children ( and i dont mean that number litterally) if he hims and haws about it, tell him hey maybe you should wait a bit longer. But it's ultimatly his choice.
2007-12-09 11:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
For some reason, this state of affairs sounds prevalent. Lord, I come to you at present, asking which you be with the nephew, the mum, and this complete family contributors. teach them mercy and love. I pray his baby survives. All in accordance with Thy Will. In Jesus' call, thank you, Father. Amen. † Comforting Prayer Warrior †
2016-12-10 17:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people won't listen and will have to learn the hard way. I have an older sister that is the same way. We made it clear we would be there to help her out if she finally decided to make a change, but would no longer get involved with her day to day drama and poor decision making.
2007-12-09 11:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by ChemESGH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people just know when they have found the right one... it's none of your business what he does even though it is a bit too fast all you can really do is voice your concerns and then let it go.. he probably won't listen to you anyway so try not to cause any family arguments and just support him through every decision he makes.. sometimes people make mistakes but just be there for him
2007-12-09 11:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what your going through and im sorry to say the best thing you can do is just tell him you dont think its a good idea but you love him and are there for him if/when he needs you. Hope I helped.
2007-12-09 11:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The more pressure you put on him the more he is going to do it. You don't want him to do it out of spite. Some people do fall in love quickly and last. Only they will know....Let him live his own life and just let him know you are behind him if this is what he wants. Although sometimes you want to help someone, you really have to let them go and just wish them the best. They will respect you alot more for just caring. God Bless and I wish you the best...
2007-12-09 11:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by lash 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
40 years ago I met a man and married him after a 27 day courtship.
My advice is to "butt out"! We have had 40 fantastic years and plan on a few more.
My husband says, "mind your own business"
He also says we have been married 40 years, but it probably won't last another 40 ,,,, damit."
2007-12-09 12:01:21 · answer #11 · answered by eek 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋