do you think am lazy?

Question

my husband does all the house chores i just work 12hr shifts 3 days a wk and refuse to do anymore labor when i get home

Answer 1

If he does not work, then it sounds fair.

Answer 2

I think that you could be doing more to help around the house. My husband was working 12 hour days every day and traveling for 2 hours on top of that and he was able to do a little to help around the house, though the bulk of it fell on me as I stay home with our 3 children and new baby.
While I don't believe you should have to do it all I do think that you should be doing some.
Are you asking this question because your husband has complained?
If your husband works also then I think that you are being a bit lazy. If both parties are working then the chores should be shared. If he doesn't work then it is ok for the bulk of the chores to be his with you helping out.

Answer 3

Does he work too? Why would you refuse to do anything when you get home? Chores and everyday life as a married couple should be looked as a team effort. Be careful of putting so much on your husbands plate. He sounds like a good guy, but a lot of people could get fed up quickly in a situation like this.

Answer 4

If your husband was working 12-hour shifts, three days a week and did nothing at home, would you be willing (and able) to do all the house chores?
I know you're not supposed to answer a question with a question, but, it seems to me that your answer lies in putting yourself in his place (and vice versa).
You also neglect to say whether or not he works outside the home, are there children involved, are you the sole financial support (not that money should buy your way out of pitching in at home!).

Answer 5

How does your house husband feel about your withdrawal of labour when you return home? Does he appreciate that you will have completed a 12 hours shift? By the way during the 12 hours I suspect he will have completed all his tasks. You forget to say whether your husband works at all and if he is complaining about your attitude.Do you have a gullty conscience?

Answer 6

A little, I work 4 12 hour shifts a week and still help my wife out with the household chores.

Answer 7

ok, you have 4 days off during the week. do something. most people work an 8 hour day after they spend 1 1/2 hours getting kids and themselves ready to leave of a morning and then come home to at least help cook, give baths and throw in laundrey before bed. add it up. 12-15 hour days 5 days a week. lazy? um yes!

Answer 8

I don't think you should REFUSE all labor when you get home, no. You can wash your own clothes for instance (they're YOUR clothes), or take out the trash. Stuff that doesn't take long. Make dinner once or twice a week. Not anything too much, just a nice helping hand once in a while.

Answer 9

I do all the house chores and take my boy to school too.
MY wife watches morning tv, and then spends 1&1/2 hrs doing her face. She doesn't work!
But she does Many things all of the time which help me and our son, so I'm happy.
The real question is, do YOU think you're lazy?!
I used to be , now I do my bit ( however small) and I can hold my head up.
We used to argue all the time.
Now we accept our OWN shortcomings before we call each other names.
Most important is YOU believe you are contributing.
If not, He won't either!

Answer 10

Let's see now; you work 12hr shifts, three days
a week and your husband does all the house
chores because you refuse to. No I don't con-
sider you lazy, however I do consider you to
be something else but I will not say as you
would report me.

Answer 11

There have been a lot of stupid answers posted.
Especially when the details given are so vague.

No, you are definitely not lazy if you refuse to do housework after a 12 hour shift.