Marriage Ending?..Husband Problems.?

Question

Alright.
I'm 19 years old and pregnant with my first child.
I have been married to my husband for a little over 3 years.
We are constantly fighting with each other over anything and everything. He always makes promises to change (take showers more often, brush teeth, no lie to me, ect) The thing is, he just makes these promises to get me to stay with him, does it for about a week, then quits. I KNOW its stupid of me to keep believeing him, but I want him to be right so bad, I kind of think maybe if I DO believe it will work. It's also not just little things like that it's also that he can't think of anything for himself (i.e he has to get up for work in the morning and never sets his alarm and i have to wake him up...he has to call into work in the morning and he doesn't and i have to remind him to call in so he doesn't get fired..just so much crap....he has just done a COMPLETE 360 since we got married, that I don't even feel like Im with the same person anymore.

I would NEVER tell him that he can't see his child. That's not even an issue here.

I would never regret my child. Yes, there could have been a better time, but this baby already means to world to me.

Answer 1

Enough is enough. Time has come to figure out whether you are better off with or without him and then move on. No one needs toor deserves to put up with someone like this nowadays so figure out what you want and go for it. Youre young enough to recover from this and live a happy life. Good luck and Happy Holidays

Answer 2

Darling, you're much too young to have to put up with this much crap! Leave him, get out of whatever state you're in and find a 'real man' that is clean living and very loving (there are quite a few out there).
This 'pig' you're with right now will never change so stop believing that he will. It is a shame that you're doing everything possible to stay and try to make it work but in hindsight it was never going to be that way.
You got married way to young, you never got a chance to experience different aspects of life that most people get to do before they're married, so you now need to let this 'person' go, start a new life somewhere else with your unborn child and start working on being a great mummy and finding a new MAN that will be a great daddy.
It sounds like you deserve a 'break' in life, I truly hope you get it!
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Right now I know it's tough being married as an young adult just getting out there and learning the ways of the world, but every relationships have there battles you have to know which ones to pick. Yes he needs to learn to be more responsible but that's not going to happen over night it's going to take time and you both will have to be willing to make the necessary sacrifice to have a lasting relationship. Marriage is work and don't let no one tell you any different. It seems as though he do care about you so start from there.and if you need help go to a counselor.

Answer 4

If you have to remind him to have a shower thats pretty sad!! You need to tell him how you feel and that your not going to put up with his **** anymore, Shape up or ship out!!!!
You are going to have your hands very full with a new baby soon so his antics are going to be the last thing you need. Can you move back in with your parents or a close friend? Maybe if you did that then he might make an effort to change his ways in an attempt to win you back. Although from the sounds of it you'd be better off without him., maybe someone thats grown up and can think for themselves. What a ****!!!

Answer 5

ok, my dear, wow ,well you got married realy young.
I would talk with your husband and tell him how your feeling about the situation and him,and ask how he is feeling about things....
and if you want to stick with the marriage, then I would suggest counceling.
there is no easy answer here,and I went through a similar situation with my last boyfriend - I kicked him out !
You have to descide where the finish line is for you and how much your willing to tollerate.
with him lieing a lot and saying things that he doesnt follow through with - how can you trust him ??
a major portion of any relationship weather its bf/gf or a married couple is built on trust and communication.
If you cant trust a person - you realy dont have anything left to work with.
re read your question and what you said to us - and from that ask yourself - is this a situation I would want to be in ?
you stated you dont even feel like yourself anymore - if you cant be yourself then that is a real bad sign.
you have a baby on the way, and you need to think about whats best for you and that baby

Answer 6

It's too late now, but a child shouldn't have been brought into this at all. He will only get worse as more responsibility is brought into the situation.

If it were me, I'd divorce him and when the child is born I'd make him take full custody so that he doesn't get the right to just go and live his life carefree and do whatever he likes, but has to take responsibility and grow up and be a man. Make him take responsibility for his kid like that. make HIM the one to be tied down like that and on his own. Then you go and live your life how you want to, go finish your education or whatever you need to do in order to be able to buy your own home, have a happy productive life, etc.

Answer 7

You're going to have to show him that you're serious, or he's going to keep doing the same things over and over. Seriously, next time, kick him out and don't let him come back until he promises to change. If he does, fine. If not, maybe try counseling. He really needs to grow up...you can't wake him up every morning for the rest of his life...what if you're at work already? He is a bum, and if you don't take harsher measures soon....you're better off without him.

Answer 8

it sounds like your husband has some real issues, you are to young to spend the Rest of your life like this, tell him you want to see active changes immediately, show everyday brush his teeth at least twice a day, and never lie again, and be more responsible for you will not live like this, if he does not make changes, then you can see what kind of life you will have with him, so then you must decide to stay and live like that ,,or move out and better yourself and your life for you and the baby

Answer 9

you got married young so what so did i. i was 18 been married for 3 years well almost 3 years and in the begining it was the same thing. he's being immature stop doing things for him or everything he does or doesnt do do the same back to him. kinda shows him what your going through. i had the same issue with my hubby except it was with gambeling. granted we have the money so its not that issue it was more of he wouldnt let me know if he was going somewhere after work or whatever so i'd worry to death. so i turned the tables on him after work id go hang out with friends or whatever and not let him know. now he lets me know everything.

Answer 10

you are married to a child having a child. you need to get out and concenstrate on the baby. that is the most important thing in this world.