3 weeks before the birth of our 1st baby my husband told me he didnt love me anymore - completely out of the blue! I found out a few days later that he was having an affair. I confronted him, packed a bag and walked out of our marriage. The affair is still on but he still denies it (really spineless) Will he ever regret what he has done & realise how much he has hurt me - dya think he will ever try to crawl back? Can this affair have any future or has he wrecked his life over a lustful fling? And does his tart see my daughter & I as a threat?
2007-12-09 11:03:54 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think he's showed you where he wants to be and it would be in your best interest to move on b/c you have a child to focus on. It'll be hard but you need to forget about him coming back b/c would you really want that agro?!
2007-12-09 11:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Yummy♥Mummy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
So, right at the very moment you would consider taking him back , knowing fully well what he has done to you. If this is true, I don't think his girlfriend is the only tart. Have you lost your mind, he screwed you over..He had an affair, he walked out, he threw you away like you would a bag of trash. Open your eyes dear. He ain't the one for you. If he wants to come back, he's gonna do it again. Once a hoe-dog, always a hoe-dog. Please move on with you live and find you someone that will treat you like the special person I know you are. THis man is a loser. Just because he fathered a child, don't make him a man. And further more, any man that is asked are they having an affair, won't admit it, they are too much of a coward. Please honey, there are some good guys out there that will love and appreciate you and I know they all aren't hoe-dogs. Good luck to ya but no one can help you til you try to help yourself.. . . . .
2007-12-09 11:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by lucylocket7258 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is a part of him somewhere inside that does feel bad about it all, but don't let this situation bother you. It might seem impossible, so super hard, but everything and everyone has a little good in at least. I think he is in a puppy love, kind of zone right now, not totally cause he is all grown up from that, but maybe he does love her, but I am sure that obsession will pass, and actually I know it will pass, because no obsession can stay forever. You are a nice women, if I were you though I wouldn't try to get help from yahoo answers, why not ask a close friend of yours to help you? Oh and the shock will defiantly go away, it always does, doesn't matter what situation.
2016-04-08 04:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep stating the obvious! You (for some strange reason) want him back? What the hell is wrong with you? You know he's having an affair, you know he's a lying piece of dog-****, dump the bastard, take him to the cleaners in a divorce court and you and your wonderful gift of a child move off to a whole new better life.
Don't even think of taking him back or you'll just put yourself up to be dumped on again. He'll keep his little tart on the side, that's probably definite, and he'll keep on lying to you as he knows you'll always forgive him! Don't give him that option, DUMP HIM, move on with life, don't waste your precious time on this bastard, get out their find a kind loving man and start enjoying life again. Life's too short to worry about arseholes like him.
Good Luck!
2007-12-09 11:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Men cover their fading lives by indulging in affairs with less demanding mates. His continued denial is proof of the inability to face reality that His actions are not right. You may have had a chance to fend off the affair but giving up so easily made his actions seem right. Let him go his way and just bleed him for all the support You can get. More than likely You can find a better guy than giving him a chance to get back in your life.
2007-12-09 11:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by hardnose 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it takes someone with a very cold heart to abandon their pregnant wife.
What sort of man does that? The answer is one that you can do without.
He may well regret his actions and I sincerely hope he does, however if he says he doesn't love you, then I know you have heard it all before, but you are better off without him.
The woman he has gone to must be nasty too, no one with any decency would allow this to happen. So they sound welcome to each other in my book.
You have to concentrate on your future without him, and remember he has lost out on one of the greatest joys in life with the arrival of your little girl.
Don't let him avoid his financial responsibility - but apart from that who needs a loser? His new relationship is doomed to failure as he is a cold hearted headache and one day the new woman will find that out for herself.
I am a great believer in what goes around comes around and he will one day get his just desserts - guaranteed.
Hold your head up, and be thankful that you have shed some dead weight. You can find happiness again and when you do that he will have to stand by and watch and this will be a big slap in the face for him.
2007-12-09 21:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The tart will see you and the baby as a threat, and most men want what they cannot have. Let him know, in a very unemotional way, that you've fallen out of love with him and don't know that you could ever feel about him the way you did. Then don't bother him anymore. I also highly recommend the James Dobson book, "Love Must Be Tough". It is FANTASTIC. It helped me to work my way through a situation similar to yours, and if you hold your head high and just go on with your life, they usually do come back. Just don't take him back.
2007-12-09 11:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sassie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he will be back full of empty promises and flowers once his fling gets tired of him or finds a new love.Its only a matter of time. The realquestion then is just how much you want him back and do you believe him fully and that is left up to you. Sue him for divorce based on infidelity and go for everything youre legally entitled to so he will always remember you and exactly what he lost. Sorry about your marriage. Good luck and Happy Holidays
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2016-04-27 06:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure as time goes on and the older he gets he may feel bad, but if he's still carrying on with his affair his actions are speaking for him.
Congrats on the new baby and best of luck to the two of you. Hopefully your husbands indiscretions will not impact how you function as a mother.
2007-12-09 11:21:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋