I feel that my life is coming to a halt, but yet I feel like I'm on that train to go somewhere. I haven't figured out who I am yet, which makes this so much harder. I feel that there is so much pressure on me to become what my parents want me to be, and what my friends think of me. I feel that I can't just relax and I'm always stressed. I am a sophomore in high school, member of the Interact Club, and manager of the girl's basketball team. I make fairly good grades (A/B's), and I'm so so when it comes to looks. I guess I'm just the average girl, but then again I do have things that make me who I am. I have my optimism and my personality. But I still feel like something is missing, or I'm missting something in this equation. I have a 19 year old boyfriend who I dont' know how long I will be with, and I have a promise ring from him. I feel that the fire that was once burning is no more. I need an adult's perspective, so please give me mature answers to my question.
2007-12-09 10:52:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are not happy because you are not yourself . At 17 its time to cut the umbilical cord Sit down with your parents and tell them to STOP the pressure they are putting on you because the only thing they are doing is delaying the process to find yourself . And about your friends Please never mind what they are expecting from you Its your life not theirs To be assertive with people around you is not impolite but arrogance is very impolite I am 65 yrs and the mother of 5 grown up kids Hope it will help
2007-12-09 11:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that it is completely normal for you to feel as if you don't know who you are yet or to feel as if there is something missing. You're still in high school! Of course you have not figured everything out yet. You have many years ahead of you to get to know yourself and to figure out who you truley are. I went through the same thing when I was your age. You do feel pressured by your parents and peers for different reasons, but you have to remember to just follow your heart. You can't always be who everyone wants you to be. You just have to be yourself and be true to yourself. As for your 19 yr. old bf, drop him and give him the ring back if you don't feel the fire anyone. I mean come on, if your just a sophemore in high school and you don't feel it, do you actually think it is going to last very long? Especially forever? Life is short. There is no reason to waste your time for any reason when you know things are not going to work out. Plus, the longer you wait the harder it is going to be. So is your life appealing? YES! Your doing good in school, you make good grades, your the manager of the basketball team, and your into extra curriculars. Your doing fine. of course the stresses of adolescence take over sometimes, but you will get through this confusing time in your life. Just be strong and keep your head up and stay true to who you are. Don't have any regrets because the high school years are some of the greatest and fastest times of your life. Live it up while you can before life gets really stressful and full of responsibilites and everything else that comes along with adult life. You sound healthy and you sound like you don't have any significant problems. Just remember that you really don't have it that bad. Somebody always has it worse than you.
2007-12-09 19:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MY deae child you are just overwhelmed mabe a bit of anxiety but i truley believe you know where u wanna go and what to do you r under peer pressure , well sometimes the truth hurts ,I know ur parents want this and that for u but u gotta do what is for u. you have to sit quietly down with them and tell them this is not ur dream but thier's and they should understand .......as for the ring give it back u r young live ur life .figure out who u r and what u want b4 thinking ahead ONE DAY AT A TIME
2007-12-09 19:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to say that you are still young so don't let the little things bring you down like your boyfriend the chances are that he could stick around or he might not you could loose interest in him and so on. and for schooling your grades sound good if you see something that your great at and you want to continue following your interest do it. my parents wanted me to do something totally opposite of what i wanted to do. and it made me miserable now I'm doing what my passion is and I'm a much happier person. follow your dream not the dream of someone else because if you do it could just hold you back from what your dream is.
2007-12-09 19:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jonathan I 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋