2007-12-09 09:55:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
I'd have to say that depends on certain things. How old both of you are, how much longer in school do you have/does he have, do you both want to live in the same ST and Town, how long have you been dating, have you spoken about how you think your married life should be (kids, religion, money, bills etc). People are very different when dating vs after being married. Marriage is hard. I've only been married for 6 months and it has been hard. It's hard because the excitement of getting to know someone is gone. There is no more chase sort of speak.
Anyways, my point is school is hard enough without added pressure. Some people make it just fine and others struggle with school and married life. There really isn't a reason to get married right away, I wish I had realized that sooner. Marriage is like dating just harder to break up (money, lawyers, ha ha ha).
I don't think your too young as long as you feel that you have lived and experienced life to the fullest and you are truly ready to deal with another persons needs and wants besides yours. When you're married, you can't just do what you want when you want, you have to talk to your mate at all times. It's different. Think about your life now. I assume you don't live together. So if that is correct, you come and go as you please, watch what you want, eat when and what you want, do your laundry when you want, etc you get the point. You see him and make plans when it fits in your schedule or when you want. Well.....after your married and move in that all changes. You can't just get up and leave unless their asleep in which you leave a note. but if they are awake you have to tell them so they don't think your mad at them and if you're in the mood to just go alone, they think somethings wrong. You have to decide whats for dinner based on both of your taste for the night, you may like the house cleaned a certain way and he may not care and leaves his stuff around because that's how he is use to living etc.
Okay this is getting long, but my over all point is YOU ARE NOT TOO YOUNG AS LONG AS YOU ARE READY AND PREPARED TO THINK ABOUT ANOTHER PERSONS NEEDS AND WANTS 24/7. IF SO, YOU WILL BE FINE.
Hope this helps. good luck
2007-12-09 10:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by choppergirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
way too young - it's best to wait until you're at least 35 or 40 to get married.
Honestly, who knows the best time for you to get married better than you? How can anyone else possibly understand whether you're personally ready or not?
There are some people that would tell you that at your age, you're a bit old to be thinking about marriage for the first time. Others will say that you need to finish college and get your career in order and maybe even own a house. Then again, it may well be that you are the perfect age right now - or that you'll never be the right age.
a caution -- a couple years ago I watched a young woman convinced by her friends that she was too young to get married - that she should wait until after graduation lalalala Over the next two years, each of these friends then ignored that advice and themselves got married. The one that was convinced to wait is still waiting......
2007-12-09 14:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by CoachT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush if you are spending the rest of your lives together, right? I don't see a point to do so unless you plan on having kids within the next year. if you both are self-sufficient then I don't see why not. Then again, in California, more than 50 percent of marriages end in divorce within the first 6 years. I doubt any of those couples were really anticipating to be part of that statistic.
2007-12-09 12:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean if you have a kid or have a good reason.....whatever.
i dont see what would be different in another 2.5 years. stay together and get married after one of you graduates.
my folks got married as seniors and then lived in married housing for grad school. Some people regret gettign married young. for some waiting is too frustrating.
2007-12-09 10:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by smartass_yankee_tom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having absolutely no other details to go on, I would say yes. You're going to change so much by the time you're a senior, and even more when you're out in the working world. If it's real love, it'll keep until you're settled in your lives and careers, so why take the chance that it's not?
2007-12-09 10:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by MM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes because you will not be able to concentrate on the most imporant years of your educational life. Marriage, just like education,requires individualized attention so it will be difficult to focus on two things that require equal amount of your time and energy.
It is worth the wait till you finish your degree. Just my two cents.
Best of luck in whatever you decide!
2007-12-09 10:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Brunette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, as long as you are ready you can get married whenever you please. I got married at 17. I had a full time job, my own car, our own appartment. it really was the best for me. If its going to be the best for you and make you happy then go for it. my sister got married in aug. (sophmore also)
2007-12-09 10:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!! it would casue too many distractions!!!!
2007-12-09 10:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by radioCHIK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-09 09:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Hyumby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋