i love my bfriend but thats the problem.. i really love him..we're together now for 2 years.. he's kind'a controling me. i mean he's not spying on me but he wants me to tell him everything even to ask him for desition that i have to make..and i'm not that kind of person.. i'm, i mean i was, very independent and now i'm not happy because i cant be ME..
2 years ago he didnt used to be like that, so i feld in love with him.. but than eveything change exept 1 thing: that i still love him as much as i always did..
i'm stuck .. it's not like i haven't talked to him about all this, but he doesen't understand me..
here where i live it's not good do have had more than 1 relationships..i had one before. and i told him..he didn't like the fact that i loved someone before him (tipical mentality of here) so now he doesn't always trust me..
if i make desitions without asking him,i fear he will leave me.. i cant leave him cuz i might never get a boyfriend again, and did i mention that i love him?
2007-12-09 09:44:17 · 3 answers · asked by samsamilya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
remember that the place where i'm from and my situation based on that.. :(
2007-12-09 09:52:48 · update #1
Yes, you can leave him. Yes, you will get a boyfriend again. If you feel suffocated, then you are. You are smart enough to see where this relationship is going. Look what's happened in the last two years - how he has changed for the worse, and how unhappy you have become. Don't waste another two years of your life, waiting for things to get better; they won't.
Has it ever occurred to you that the guy he used to be was an act to lure you in, and now that he's got you, you are seeing the real him? It's possible. Controllers always start off pretending they are not; otherwise, they could never lure a girl, in the first place.
Your insecurity is ruling you right now. You are not thinking straight. He is probably adding to that. He doesn't want you to feel secure about yourself. If you felt self confident, you would "wake up", realize you are wasting your youth with a control freak, and leave.
What you really need most right now is to be without a man for awhile. You need to get your head together, figure out who you are, independently, and what you, personally, want out of life - things that don't have anything to do with anyone but you. When you've found self respect, start looking again and the right guy will appear. This is not the right guy.
2007-12-09 09:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by lighght30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he replaced into nonetheless in love and you broke his heart. Time will heal while you're somewhat particularly maximum suitable friends. My maximum suitable pal and that i went a twelve months as quickly as yet labored issues out. 30 yrs friends so a approaches. reliable luck :-)
2016-11-15 01:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is THAT controlling as a boyfriend, imagine what he will be like if you MARRY this loser. DUMP HIM NOW...there are plenty of nice guys out there and you have many chances of meeting the right one--if you give yourself that chance. Good Luck to you.
2007-12-09 09:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋