an alcholic mom?

Question

my mom is an alcholic and does not care what i say. I have cried my eyes out to her but she does not care. I HATE her boyfriend. He is abusive and cheets on her and to make it worse he is an alcholic too. My moms house is the messiest house in the worls and smells. When i eat ther i get sick. She is unemployed and lives on 20 $ a month. I have told her i am not her daughtor anymore but she does not care. How do i deal with her?

Answer 1

I feel your pain > Dealing with Alcoholic is never easy and so much worse when its not your choice to be there > There is a wonderful program called al-non and al-teen .Since your mom is not ready to face her addiction at this point you can address your concerns and fears of living with an alcoholic. you will meet others that are facing the same things you are each and everyday because you are not alone !! Don't let her sickness make you bitter because you have a chance for a bright and full filling future> don't spend time hating something you can't change instead spend time loving the one person you can change - YOURSELF- because you are worth it

Answer 2

Unfortunately, you cannot just tell her "you are not her daughter anymore." I'm not saying you should treat her like she's a Donna Reed mom, but unfortunately, it's not your call.

I would suggest, first, you look into attending Al-Anon meetings. It's a respected support group program for children and family members of alcoholics. Talk to your school counselor, your doctor, or a minister or church worker. They can often point you in the right direction.

You should also tell someone about the state of the home you live in. It could be that she would be found temporarily unfit, but if that happens, keep in mind, if there is no one else who is able and willing to provide you with a better living situation, if you are taken away from her, you will be put wherever the courts can put you, either in a foster home or a group home.

I wouldn't mention how she lives on twenty dollars a month. Unless there is another adult in the house that pays for everything, that's not true. It wouldn't even buy her one bottle of alcohol a week.

Good luck to you. I hope everything works out for you, and that your mom is able to kick her dependance.

Answer 3

You have been deeply affected by life with alcoholics, and perhaps it's time to start taking care of YOU.. you did not mention your age, but there are support groups for help and advice --

Alanon and Alateen are both support groups for those of us whose lives have been affected by an alcoholic. And please look into them? You can do a Yahoo search to find both groups.. there is contact information, also, so you mght be able to find local, in-person meetings in your community.

I hope you can find another place to live... and also, i'd suggest talking to a school counselor (if you're still in school?) or therapist.

take care.

Answer 4

It will take time for your mom to come around. She can not think clearly with the alcohol and too has became depended on her boyfriend. The only thing you can do is pray and hope for the best. Just remember that your mind is not in her right mind and may never recover but if she does she will once understand your pain.

Answer 5

How old are you?

If things are that bad, you could possibly file divorce from your mother which will allow you to live on your own and not have to stay with her.

Answer 6

You don't have to deal with her-you can love her because she is your mother but she doesn't have to be a part of your life-dont go there.

Answer 7

shes gonna have to come to grips with drinking before she can care about much else, either get her some help, or back-off dont destroy yourself over it.......good luck to you both

Answer 8

just stay away from her house- she needs alot of help--maybe suggest AA
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