I know my husband likes my friend. He has admitted it. But he ignores her now and I am staying away from her. He knows it bothers me and its over but if he liked someone else I feel like he can't be in love with me. I have never liked anyone but him.
2007-12-09 09:01:21 · 13 answers · asked by Mommy of 2) 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's ideal, but probably not consistent with reality...over the course of a lifetime both of you will probably find a number of people attractive, intriguing, and compelling, but you are not free to act on those impulses because you're married. I actually think life throws these little challenges into the mix because everytime we successfully negotiate one of them, we get a stronger union as a result. It's like lifting weights....you have to put on an enormous load to tax the muscle before it grows in strength and size. You're both building marital muscle now, and even though this was a bothersome occurrence, you seem to have weathered it appropriately together. You win these battles together because you love each other. You're not the only beautiful woman in the world...you're the only beautiful woman in the world for him. That should be a comforting thought, and by him admitting the attraction and agreeing to distancing himself from her, he's reaffirmed his commitment to you. Not a bad move at all. Good luck to you both, and Happy Holidays!
2007-12-09 09:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Jebus, There is all kinds of love and on different levels. I'm sure you wil get all kind of interesting advice on this question and it may all be right for them. But for you It's wrong. The thing is from what I'm reading you love your self and know who you are. So you trust others to make the right decision. I agree with you there because I'm not any ones watchdog either. Even if he does cross some imaginary line and does the dirty deed that still doesn't make you wrong to trust only him for not deserving your trust. I could go on for hours on this, but bottom line is "do what feels right for you"
2016-04-08 04:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes husbandstend to look outside of the marriage if he isn't getting what he needs at home. This is not all sexual either. It could be something say if you don't laugh at his jokes and she does kind of thing. I don't really think love here is the problem as you can love someone and still be drawn towards other people, emotionally or physically.
Sit him down and find out why he is attracted to her and see if there is anything simple you could do. My husband and I don't go to bed at the same time because I fidget a lot and it keeps him from going to sleep so I wait until he is already asleep before going. Something like that could bug him and all it would mean is you would just go lay in bed with him or something yanno?
I hope I helped!
2007-12-09 09:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you say your husband 'admitted' to liking her, you must mean he 'fancied' her romantically. Wow. Why would he admit that to you!!! Is he maybe trying to make you jealous? How was your relationship before all this? And look, I like Joaquin Phoenix but I still love my husband. Sounds like you need to open up lines of communication with your husband. Good luck.
2007-12-09 09:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by tarasheridan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Him liking anyone else has nothing to do with his love for you. People can like or love many others at one time. If he's been faithful to you, why are you so insecure? I'd find it odd if someone I'd been with long term NEVER found anyone else appealing on any level.
2007-12-09 09:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like Angelina Jolie but will never trade my wife for her.
I like my Ex and still talk to her and sometimes let myself feel that she and I had made a better couple, but again, don't think I am going back to her either.
See: Men may like a hundred women together at any point of time and believe me, we are capable of doing that... but if a man is committed to his wife, and committed to this institution of marriage, it is highly unlikely that he will ever stray. Having said that, you might want to probe if there's anything he is missing in your current relationship and want to sort it out together... Not saying that he will never take fency for someone else after that... in fact... we all do.. but that he told you about it and corrected him afterwards tells me that he is for keeps.
2007-12-09 19:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by Gulab 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is unlimited. We can love a million, but chose to be loyal to one. It sounds like he is being loyal, so don't be jealous. He's showing his true love to you by not allowing himself to become attached or entangled with your friend.
And you are wise not to continue to bring her into your life. If there's a like or attraction, you don't want to fan the flames or make it harder for your husband to continue being faithful.
Some people can only like/love one person at a time. But they are rare. Think about it. Don't you love and like anyone else? Family members? Friends? Are you talking about attraction or affection?
You'll know he loves you by his actions and it seems those indicate love.
2007-12-09 09:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by folkpine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are not sure how he feels anymore. When you find it hard communicating with him, I would suggest enlisting in couples therapy to talk about the problem. That way you two will be discussing your feelings with an impartial third party who will keep things private. If he said he liked your friend as "more than a friend" I would suggest this.
2007-12-09 09:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by shannonasbell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are all types of likes and all types of loves....different levels for different situations. There is room to love more than one person...but not be IN love with more than one person.
2007-12-09 09:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Liked your friend? Ummm, in a romantic kind of way? That is not healthy...
2007-12-09 09:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋